We are controlled by our compulsive FIXATION on that SPECIAL someone we think we need. We spend all our time trying to beg, convince them to love us....like if they dropped dead (God forbid) or ended up with a mysterious deadly disease we wouldn't somehow MANAGE to move on with our lives anyway.
I once read that a GREAT relationship is when two people who love and understand one another come together to create something STRONGER than either of them could ever be on their own. Meaning we don't walk into a given relationship EMPTY handed.
We are expected to come together with our individual VALUES and build something super DYNAMITE. Almost like a business venture....lol. Think about this, India has a relatively low DIVORCE rate and majority of their marriages are arranged as opposed to the many NUMEROUS supposed "Love Marriages" that end up in divorce every other day.....and it makes me wonder.
If one often made bad BUSINESS or personal choices. If a person was one of those self obsessed people who unknowingly like to SABOTAGE themselves, isn't there a chance that this special person we are so pumped about might be somewhat WRONG for us?
Well, there's no DEFINITE way of knowing, but maybe we should try picture them through the eyes of other people, if we don't really trust ours. No relationship is a picnic, one has to come in strong and READY to fight the battles....be hurt and dragged all over but still knowing that life doesn't REWARD the weak.
Teddy Pendergrass sang "it feels good loving somebody and that somebody loves you back" Yea! Still a relationship can't survive on a WARPED impression of love. Some say that love isn't enough....And now I can say, they don't know what they are saying....because they don't know what real LOVE is about. Love is a Decision...It is Kind, Forgiving, Giving, Sacrifice, Compromise, Dependable and It Tolerates all things. If anyone like me is big on commitment and LOYALTY. That's a sure-fire way to prove one's love.
Just imagine the worst thing that can ever happen to anyone, happen to us, WHOEVER we can PICTURE right there beside us, doing everything they can to SUPPORT us through the good and bad, is who we should really INVEST our love in....because wherever YOU invest your love, is where you invest your LIFE !
Have A Magnificent Monday Lovelies! Kisses!