RESPECT: is to show deferential regard or appreciation, state of being regarded with honour or esteem, polite expression of consideration and value towards someone or something.
LOVE: is the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for another, a compassionate and affectionate action towards oneself or others.
It is not a coincidence that the bible instructs Men to LOVE their wives and Women to RESPECT their husbands and not the other way round. Maybe because women tend to respond positively to kindness, COMPASSION and AFFECTION regardless of their state of mind or feelings, because WE grow in love. While Men want to be APPRECIATED, HONOURED and VALUED.
Perhaps what's been MISSING in so many relationships is that we have either misunderstood or totally forgotten what is truly required of us to make our relationships succeed beyond the CHALLENGES we face.
And while, the bible continues to reiterate that Men should love their wives as christ loves the Church....Not once does it ask Women to love their Husbands, even though there is mention of submission and respect. Some people even think Respect means OBEDIENCE. Whilst it doesn't, a woman will easily obey and submit to a man if he has earned her respect by completely loving her.
For Compassion and Affection is second NATURE to a Woman as Honour and Esteem is to a Man. The bible doesn't require us to learn that which is NATURAL to us, but to practise that which is natural to the other gender because it enhances us to reciprocate what we receive from our partners. In other words, a woman naturally shows love, so the man must be reminded that it's his DUTY to reciprocate that love. And a man naturally values or expresses appreciation or honour to a woman, she must be also be reminded of her duty to reciprocate the same....
So, if we Women are to Men.... As the church is to christ and Christ dearly loved the church.... Now I understand better every time I watch a BOLLYWOOD film with its translation in reference to love from a woman's point of view. Its always something like..... "You are akin to God" or "I see God in your eyes". I find that to be Deep and Powerful.
Then don't be surprised if all your companion desperately NEEDS from you is for you to stop holding back and start SHOWING more affection. Mostly because lots of Men still need to practise more ways and how to EXPRESS love and the Women more respect. Its okay for a woman to compliment a man, praise him, be considerate towards him and always let him know that no matter how annoying he can be, you absolutely value him. Believe me, Nothing works more magic like love and respect....or what do you think?!
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