Wednesday, 26 November 2014

Things To Expect When You Date A Woman Like Me

I've tried DATING a few times. Let's be honest, as much as I'm sweet to be around....I'm not exactly the easiest kind of woman to UNDERSTAND at first....Why? My head is pretty much on my shoulder, I know what I want and where I'm going in life, and I clearly don't suffer fools. I've loved and I've lost, but that clearly isn't what is holding me back. The truth is, I've been way independent and SINGLE for far too long, that I have survived without someone else breathing down my neck and imposing themselves in my space or making my decisions for me. In fact I might even have a little OCD and I try not to FREAK out from seeing disorder and mess in my own space. Lol. I've become a paradox that even I try to fathom. Yes, I'm Sensitive and Emotional yet I don't 'love' loudly. I'm extremely Confident, yet quite SHY. Very Open and revealing, yet PRIVATE, secretive and sometimes lucid. Very attentive yet often times just ALOOF, I love being around people but I also like my own space, I write like a potty mouth but will never be caught dead speaking inappropriately in person....Confusing right?

Yes. I'm sort of an 'Enigma' and that will scare the SHIT out of any simpleton. My needs have changed. So much so I'm not even sure if I remember how to date and if I also have to worry about babysitting a grown ass man (Hahahah). So many men have asked what they need to do to get through to me, I tell them to be PERSISTENT and CONSISTENT (I mean if you are persistent, you'll the get the woman.... if you are consistent, you'll keep her) Exactly!!! But even keeping a woman like me, takes a lot of work right? Well, I'm sure I'm not the only COMPLEX woman on the planet....I found some interesting points at thoughtscatalog.com, so permit me to share a few 'things to expect when you date a strong independent woman like me....'


#1). Expect her to do her own thing often and without letting you know, at least at first. It’s not that you don’t matter; it’s just that she’s learned to love doing what she wants, when she wants, and without asking permission or informing anyone.

#2). She’ll probably want to take things slowly because she’ll not be used to all the attention. Don’t think she doesn’t like you enough, she probably likes you a lot; it’s just all new to her.  

#3). Expect her friends to be overprotective of her and to be suspicious of you at first. They’re not used to her being with someone and they’ll want to make sure you’re the kind of guy who will treat her well.

#4). She’ll have a hard time letting you do things for her. Try not to take this personally. She’s just used to taking care of herself and it’ll be hard for her to live in a world where she’s got someone else looking out for her in that way.

#5). Expect her to be stubborn, to always want things her way, and to fight you when she doesn’t get it. Don’t always give in to her, but do let her win sometimes.

#6). She needs to be left alone often especially when you first start seeing each other and it should feel like she’s head over heels. Believe that she has more butterflies in her stomach than she knows what to do with, which is why she’ll need to compose herself.

#7). Expect her to pull away from you, especially when she realizes how much she likes you. She’ll come back to you but she’ll need time to think her feelings through.

#8). She’ll question you, sometimes directly, sometimes implicitly, about your feelings for her. She’ll always want to know if they are real or if she’s making things up in her head.

#9). Expect her to be headstrong. She’ll tell you, “I’ve got this,” more than you’ll want to hear. But she’ll get used to your offers to help. And in time she’ll know how to let go of the tight grip she seems to have on everything. 

#10). She’ll be guarded, and she won’t be keen on letting you in. She’s waiting to see if you’re patient, she’s waiting to see if you’re worth it. She’s hoping that you’re worth it.

#11). Expect her to be stingy with trust, to only give a little bit at a time. But every time she gives you a little, it’ll feel like a big step for her. Cherish these big steps.

#12). She’ll come across as strong, maybe too strong for you at first. But don’t be intimidated, this is her outer shell. And when you get to know her, you’ll know she’s strong but soft; tough but kind.

#13). Expect her to be reserved, at least about the things that matter. Until you really get to know her. And then you’ll see the untamed, raw, and always beautiful open version of her that she’ll let you fully discover.

#14). She’ll be slow with her vulnerabilities, and hide many of her weaknesses. And when she shows you them, she’ll feel naked. Clothe her with your words.

#15). Expect her not to need you, and not to believe in needing much of anything at all. But she’ll want you. And when she does, it’ll be the most exhilarating feeling you’ve ever experienced.

#16). She’ll be scared – scared to be hurt, scared to love, and be loved. Scared that you’ll eventually hurt her or leave her and if and when that happens, she won’t know who she was before.

#17). Being alone is her default, it’s her comfort zone. But expect her to fall in love with you faster than she’ll admit and in a way that isn’t loud but still powerful; it’ll be like a little bit of heaven. And it won’t matter if you love her for a while or for a lifetime; her love will change both you and her forever.



So what you do think Lovelies? Do you feel like any of these point directly at you or your love interest/partner? Let me know your naked thoughts....

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