Friday, 31 October 2014

THE NAKED CHALLENGE 1: The Naked Truth

I knew nothing about the freedom and PEACE that came from #Expressing oneself in a truly open and transparent way. My writings have given me a medium to be free....And I choose to live freely in that AWARENESS.

I recognise that, we all are SUFFERING one way or another. But the question remains....Can your pain ease mine? One of the most important purpose of my blog posts is to find creative ways to encourage people to experience the truest form of FREEDOM by being PRESENT in the moment and for you to be able to express your truest feelings and thoughts in the most TRANSPARENT and honest way even if it makes you feel exposed, vulnerable or weak. Remember that EXPRESSION is a form of Strength, not Weakness.

So do you think you can do it? Well I DARE you to be free. 

Here's My Naked Challenge 1: 

THE NAKED TRUTH : Share something honest that you can't hide makes you feel vulnerable. Know that no one can hurt you with the truth, if you are bold enough to serve it to yourself.

ME: I woke up thinking of Tiger today. He's been on my mind a lot lately and I hate that I still think about him sometimes. #TNC

Now it's your turn....

Will you take the challenge? 

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Wednesday, 29 October 2014

Alex's Audio Diary 23

The saying "if at first you don't succeed, try and try again" is a powerful reminder of how important the role of PERSISTENCE plays in the world of success. Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Not even Talent, Knowledge, Wisdom, Education or Strength . But the determination to “Press On” even in the face of CHALLENGE has solved and always will solve most of our problems. As long as we remember that Persistence is simply the ability to MAINTAIN 'action' regardless of our feelings or the circumstances, not to QUIT but to actually motivate ourselves to keep driving till we achieve our goals and visions. Please LISTEN to My AUDIO for today....



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Tuesday, 28 October 2014

FEATURE: My Tuesday Talent Crush - Harrysong


I'm one of those WEIRD creative types who get all excited about other QUALITY artistic talents within the entertainment circle, like I've found some deep dark secret no one else knows and if they are tall, dark and handsome, then it gets even freaky for me. Cos I definitely love some MAN-Candy and I ain't gonna lie about it. Hahahah....I reluctantly woke up this morning in my hotel room somewhere in Republic of Benin (Cotonou), where I had to come to a brand meeting with madam CEO, to meet the highly distinguished and CELEBRATED French-African Designer of Lé Braided Couture, JB Hounyovi himself.

But It was the sound of the vibrant music Victoria Nkong was playing on her phone as she sashayed into my room that caught my attention. OMG! I could hear this A-list Francophone music group kicking some nice SPIN on one of Harrysong's biggest recent hit. Wowzer!!!....I'm absolutely loving it, as I break into a mama-twerk (that's what I call the booty shaking those of us with real butt get from delivering a 4.5kg baby with head the size of Olumo rock...Hahah) I'm sorry Ray-Boo (You know mummy loves you silly but let's be honest child, you weigh a ton for such a cute litle boy) Ehen, so back to my heavy ass shaking and this remix clearly bursting what's left of my Creative MEMBRANE....Lol. Dang! This is gonna be bloody interesting and you know, music and men are two of some of my greatest FETISH. Hahahah.

Put me anywhere near a real HUNK and half.... and watch me become melted chocolate pudding before your very eyes. Now add Talent and Creativity to the mix and my CRUSH reaches a whole new level. This brings me to my Tuesday Talent-Crush, the very gifted Harrysong of the famous "Five Star Music". Who is an amazing singer and a FANTASTIC song writer, whom I found out has written some of the biggest hits for some of your favourite artists and the dude never BRAGS about it (plus you know how I feel about anyone who can write something other than their names and a tweet...kwa...kwa...kwa...My silly laugh) Lol.

Anyway, I was pretty excited to hear (as classified info ofcourse), that he just signed an INTERNATIONAL management deal with Qtaby Entertainment and there's absolutely no doubt in my Unfiltered mind, from the little I've seen and heard so far....that they will be spreading the Harry FEVER into the international market especially with this new collaboration remix in the offing and him joining us to become one of the Celebrity Brand Faces for Lé Braided Couture and his brand new photo SHOOT with the Ace Photographer, Reze Bona....Who by the way, will be shooting the Celebrity Editorial Covers for Lé Braided Couture (hopefully I get paired with my new crush 'Harry-muffin' as I now choose to call him...) Heheheh.

Well I also heard Harry just got two NMVA nominations (Best Contemporary Afro Video) for his song "Kolombo" and (Best Pop Extra) for "My Story" and it's obvious lots of great things are in the SUCCESS radar for him....Well, if you've listened to any of his latest works and have been #Harryfied just like I have....then feel free to click HERE to lend a vote to MY TUESDAY TALENT CRUSH aka My Harry-Muffin (covers blushing face) to win his nomination category (He deserves it). Meanwhile, I love the first monochrome tease from his shoot with Reze Bona. Isn't Harry-muffin looking dapper or what do you think Lovelies? Feel free to share your thoughts. Well, first 3 to comment, gets my TALENT-CRUSH GIVEAWAY courtesy of QTABY ENTERTAINMENT, a special autographed copy of  his "HOT Compilation CD" and a Harryfied Tee-Shirt to go with it. Yaaaay!!!

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Saturday, 25 October 2014

#AskAlex: Can My Man And I Experience Soul Sex?


Dear Alex,

Hope you are doing great? I'm a big fan of your articles and I really love how you use words to communicate what you are thinking and feeling. I read one of your recent posts "I want soul sex" and I wanted to know what soul sex really is and if it's something I can actually experience with my boyfriend. Can you tell me how? Because I'm honestly not enjoying sex with him even though I love him a lot. He's quite rough. Waiting to hear from you. Thanks. Sheila.

Hey Sheila,

Thanks a lot for following my blog posts. I get all your personal messages of encouragement. Believe me, I value them a lot. As regards the post "I Want Soul Sex". It really was a mythical spin on the frustration I was feeling from loneliness as a single mom and my crave for a connection, a deeper sort of interaction better than the surface experience I get from just chatting at home with my 4 year old son. I wasn't actually referring to sex LITERALLY but the immense deep connection similar to the type, one gets from taking part in soul sex. Though I would give anything for some banging soul sex right about now....Hahahah....(So I'm in with you on that one). Now to the CRUX of your question.

WHAT IS SOUL SEX?

As you know Sex itself is an incredibly powerful physical energy that releases tension with the aim to satisfy the body. (And I've only recently learned to embrace my sensuality as well as my sexuality as a woman, and I'm still learning).

Soul SEX is engaging in a deeper connection that transcends beyond physical bodies just doing the samba or etighi, but is really the exchange of being present in the energy, between you and your partner through your mind, body, heart and soul as you both communicate and express the feeling of love. What some may even like to call LOVEMAKING even though most people just think lovemaking is mostly about spinning their foreplay techniques like the baddest Dj in town....or that you even have to be crazy in love to make love....Hehehe....To make love....Simply means to show love and appreciation to someone's body. And we all know LOVE is kind, patient, giving and gentle. Aha! So translate those virtues to sex. There is absolutely nothing kind about a man squeezing a woman's breasts like he's about to squeeze lemon juice, neither is there anything kind about a woman using her teeth to graze a man's dick. Same way there is no sign of patience, if he can't wait to get to JERUSALEM or 5th Heaven, Forget Cloud 9 abegi. Hahahah. So you see soul sex is really the freedom of letting go, of power and control while magically surrendering yourself, not just to your partner but to everything that is alive within him.

CAN MY BOYFRIEND AND I EXPERIENCE IT?

Yes, I believe so. Especially if you both are in tune with one another spiritually and mentally. And it's a shame many of us go through a life time never experiencing that earth shattering sexual connection that's beyond aiming for just orgasm (which is most people's goal by the way), but actually for pure divine PLEASURE. Because the focus is to SLOWLY build the right kind of sexual tension that causes your partner to be vulnerable and naked before you. Yet as women, we get a few momentary glimpse of this, because most men are just in a hurry to get to the juicy meat in between (Forget the 5/10 minutes of foreplay he gives you dammit. He's being a fraud bribing you with peanuts). Lol. Real lovemaking should take at least an hour and half of foreplay until both of you equally lose your defence and become completely vulnerable before each other....and needy of course. (Just imagine you begging him and wanting....okay, scratch that thought....Picture him, ready and vulnerable and eager. That dude can promise you the world right there and fulfil of course. How about those Louis Vuitton Shoes You Wanted or The Lé Braided Dress? Hahahah. (you get my drift, right?)

Sex then becomes no more than a path to enlightenment, but the very MANISFESTATION of Enlightenment in itself because lovemaking becomes the EXPRESSION of the true Light of who you both are, manifesting itself as an offering, a gift through your bodies.

HOW CAN WE ACHIEVE IT?

Okay, I don't swear to have the blue print of the KAMASUTRA engraved in my mind. Hahahah. But here are a few tips to get you started and believe me, none of it has to do with sex positions. *tongue out.

#1)  Set The Mood

Music can set the mood for anything, including sex. And no, it's not cheesy. Remember my post "GREAT SEX WITH BAD ROMANCE?". Exactly! You can pick great songs From Barry White to Marvin Gaye even Banky W, there is a wide variety of ballads to choose from. (I personally love "Tyrese- Signs of Love Making" or anything from Maxwell, Joe or Donell Jones) I'm a sucker for them. Make sure you have lots of music lined up on your playlist on repeat. You can check out "MY TOP 25 BABY MAKING MUSIC" for motivation:

Remember, before you go any further, make sure you have all your mobile phones, and television turned off (okay maybe not the phones....cos as a responsible mother I like to leave my phones on in case of any emergency but I put them on silent, so I can see missed calls and messages). Knowing that any interruption or vibration can jolt you back to reality. Trust me, You don't want to be interrupted cos it's going down baby....like...err.....Literally! Lol.

#2)  Blending Your Energies

Before the first touch, sit in front of each other, facing each other. Take a few moments to sit in complete silence and breathe in your partners presence. Without touching, close your eyes and enjoy your combined energy. This time will help you both get centered and calm from your day. Let each exhale release all the negativity you have accumulated from sitting in bad traffic, fighting with your colleague or arguing with your mom or his mom if she's the evil kenevil one. Lol.

#3) Deep Eye Gazing

It begins with a look. A deep meaningful look where you gaze into your partners soul. Okay you know what I mean, just stare into his ugly hazel contact lenses. (I'm kidding). Just look at your partner and take in the uniqueness of their facial features....And remember the EYES are the windows to the soul. Look there. Forget about what you have to pick up at the grocery store, or who's owing you. Hahahah. Just gaze into your partners eyes with a soft focus. (Now I know myself, I personally hate to lock eyes cos it reveals a lot about what I'm feeling, so I'll burst into laughter) But it's okay. You may laugh, or you may even cry - just be open to either. You have to be able to allow your partner to SEE inside you. The purpose is to be naked, vulnerable and transparent before him. Do not try to hide or put up barriers, you will miss the really deep INTIMACY you are trying to create. Remember it's all about a SOUL connection. There's nothing pretentious, fake or dramatic about it. Its about tapping into your real feelings.

#4)  Kiss Like Its Communication

Now this is my secret favourite. (Secret because it's not something I personally like to experiment with just any man). Because I find Kissing itself to be an art you share with only those who can interprete the medium of communication and connect with it. You can read my earlier posts "KISS LIKE A MONSTER" and "THE ART OF KISSING". Some people can have an orgasm just from kissing, If they feel deeply connected to their partners. In soul sex, it's important to kiss more often.

Think of starting with velvet, soft, gentle and delicate kisses. It could be in an unusual spot, like a gentle press to his shoulders, arm, neck or his belly. (I personally love when I get something as basic as sweet soft pucker to my nose, eyes or cheeks, it's long and lingering so I know it's not just a friendly kiss. Lol. It could even be on my wrist or my back. So it's SENSUAL and not overtly sexual. Again it creates room for more exploration....and then you can finally lock lips and foreplay. And I need not imagine the rest ....Hahahah.

Whatever happens, the focus should remain on being PRESENT in the moment and building an INTIMATE connection that keeps you both focused on feeling and expressing your desires, even if it takes the entire day.

I hope my post helps you BUILD an incredible soul sexual experience with your man. Feel free to UPDATE me on how things go moving forward (Believe me, I know how to keep a secret girl) #wink. Lol. Cheers.


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Friday, 24 October 2014

I Burnt The Eggs....

In the 10 years since I finally got my act together somewhere around the Kitchen in between grilling the best SHRIMPS and making the most delicious bitter leaf soup....and totally away from my days of serving HALF boiled rice and crispy stiff meat, have I ever had a kitchen catastrophe as great as this.

So I'm cutting down my carbs and trying green COFFEE beans with more protein, veggies and my homemade smoothies. And I've sort of picked up a bit of laziness around the KITCHEN in the last 6 months. Most of it came from having a stand by maid at home, to spending a few months at my folks and then my constant hotel nobbing when I'm working ALONE. Its almost impossible not to call room service and place a call at 10pm even if it's just for some juicy chicken BONE.

So I've resigned myself to cutting down my calories even if it means whisking up a QUICKIE meal in just 5 minutes. 2 chicken franks and 2 boiled eggs or Just Tuna and sweet corns nonetheless, anything to take the pressure of my CHEST or shall I say my gorgeous perky BREAST.

It was with the best intentions to break my circumstantial FAST even though I knew I'll rather have my belly BLAST and everything that reminds me of the past when I used to eat 4 packs of noodles and it never went to my ASS. 

So I turn on the GAS to boil some eggs, when I forgot that time really does move FAST as I shut my eyes to while away time, till the smell of burning sulphur, zinc and charred yolk filtered my nostril and burning my eyes WILD. 

ALAS! I think I just burnt my BREAKFAST! Help!!!

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Wednesday, 22 October 2014

I Want Soul Sex....

Clearly I'm feeling a little deprived today. And it's not one of those situations where you are so horny cos you haven't had SEX in months, and the guy cums in  one minute just from stroking your NIPPLES. Hahahah....No!!! This is different. it's like I'm giving way too much of myself and not refuelling. Now that tends to happen if one spreads themselves THIN in several directions or is involved in too many projects, they are about to go nuts from EXHAUSTION. Its almost like I'm running on empty towards EMOTIONAL bankruptcy.  Oh me silly, MORON.

I've spent the last couple of days tending to Ray's DOMESTIC and emotional needs, as well as trying to get some work done because his babysitter left us, to tend to her sick mom who needs a lot of ATTENTION in the village. I've spent the last 3 years as a father, role playing as I go about performing "Daddy duties"....carrying that 13.5 kg gas cylinder, a 30 litre jerry can filled with PETROL and 4 dispenser bottles of water. I've had to take out the trash....manually sort out my electric board, change the bulbs and turn on the generator....Geez, I can feel my MUSCLES twitching. I still need to sneak a quick football game with Ray and pretend to car race around the living room even though my huge BUTT could never fit in Ray's toy Mercedes Benz  S-Class. I have to MASSAGE my own waist and pretend the Seven Pillows on my bed make up for the perfect COMPANION ....or Ray's cute "Mummy you look beautiful?" ...."I love you mummy" is at best, the most engaging CONVERSATION I can ever have at home for now. 

No, I'm not SUPER woman....I'm just the regular female with two round melons and a cat....Yes, a hairy PUSSY cat. Hehehe. I'm the one, some refer to as a 'working mother'....or wait....is it the 'single mother' you bloody hypocrites?.... Hian....even though I'm yet to figure out if the word SINGLE is a representation of my boring relationship STATUS, my supposed failure in that department or just spotlight on the heavy parental RESPONSIBILITY ahead of me....Mehn, whatever the case... you wanna switch roles with me?..... And there goes the babysitter, I always assumed would be Ray's assistant mummy. 'Assistant' because I still get to wear the cool "Mummy" hat....but understand that it's okay to have someone STEP in for me, when I need to bring home the bacon.

So you can imagine how heart BROKEN I must feel right now, knowing once again I'm alone in this STRUGGLE. No assistant mummy here to help Ray poop or even sing all of those wacky tunes Disney Junior and Cbeebies play back to back to brainwash these unassuming toddlers, that the world is all Fun and Games....Hahahah.... And certainly no Comfort here to bring me a mug of Coffee, whilst I sort out the many pending EMAILS in my box or write a new blog post.

Yes, I am certainly deprived of someone tending to my NEEDS....And I don't even mean that I need my own sitter to wipe my ass or brush my TEETH. Just someone SWEET who cares enough to ask how I'm doing today and probably offer some help pretty PLEASE. Not someone who needs me for one more favour that will stretch me mentally from here to HELL, whadeheck!!

I need someone who will take out some time in a day to perhaps ENGAGE my mind, TOUCH my heart and WET my soul. Someone who will give me the perfect distraction, a beautiful ORGASMIC release away from my present frustration. 

Someone I can travel the VIRTUAL landscape as they stimulate my mind till the endless passionate waves TRIGGER a current of laughter and perhaps pours within me that which I am presently lacking in MOTIVATION. I want that wild crazy soul sex that has me giggling whenever I think I'm having a crazy day simply because nothing could be more ridiculously CRAZY than their thought process wrapped around my many hilarious ideas. I just want a mental back rub away from the LONELINESS that aches. A black out from making custard, rice or even cornflakes.

That which compels them to lay upon my soul, so we can MERGE our beautiful creative souls together and CREATE a sweet MELODY, only we can unravel in our hidden riddles....

For we all get lonely from time to time, still I want something that transcends beyond two bodies TWERKING to the sound of their own rhythm....an impulsive jolt of memories, I can take with me anywhere, even when it seems like I'm stuck alone with Ray's frantic rantings of Mickey Mouse and the Gold Fish. 

In any case I think I've found my own quick FIX. All I really want is a simple SOUL SEX. Nothing more, nothing less....Can I eat your thought process, pretty please?!

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Monday, 20 October 2014

20 Boosts To Inspire You And Those You Love....

Hey Lovelies, its the start of a brand new week and I'm just thankful to be experiencing a new day....because a new day represents new HOPE and a chance to CONQUER our dreams and finish the work we've started. Some of us would never have been able to achieve some of the things we set out to, if not for the love and encouraging words we get from our daily SUPPORT system.... be it our families, friends, colleagues,  spouses, mentors, partners or even the wise words of strangers....which is why, HOPE and MOTIVATION is the best gift you can give someone you love. 

So here's #AlexDailyBoost for today. Hope it stirs something inside of you....

#1) Half our mistakes in life arise from feeling where we really ought to THINK, and thinking where we really ought to FEEL.

#2) One should love like an Adult, but never forget to make your mate feel giddy like a child again.

#3) It's not enough to just be compassionate, you must ACT upon it.

#4) Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a PERSON to be loved. 

#5) Remember that If someone wants you, nothing will keep them away.... but if they don't want you, nothing you do will ever make them stay.

#6) Its okay to recognise your weaknesses, because once you've accepted your FLAWS no one can use them against you.

#7) When you make a commitment, you build Hope. But When you KEEP it, you have succeeded in building TRUST.

#8) Everyone needs a partner that LOVES them for who they are, but somehow still INSPIRES them to be a better person.

#9) They say LOVE is GIVING. So when you do something out of love, you don't count the cost.

#10) Don't take the love you get for GRANTED. For though love is forever. Patience will someday run out. Keep it in mind that, If you get COMPLACENT. You will be replaced.

#11) Love takes ACTION. Which is why it is a demonstration....not just words or feelings.

#12) If you keep looking back at the person behind you. Chances are, you won't be able to see the one in front of you leading you to your destiny. Where is the fun in being stuck in the past?

#13) If you must TRIP and fall. Then fall in love with someone who looks at you and knows they don’t want anyone else. They are worth the bruise. Lol.

#14) Avoid people who are willing to do anything..... because people who will do anything can't and won't be LOYAL. Their 'desperation' over rides their commitment.

#15) Look for something POSITIVE in each day and in those you love, even if some days you may have to look a little harder, a little deeper.

#16) No matter how far you have gone on the wrong road, you can still TURN around because YOU steer the wheels to your destination.

#17) You are PART of a puzzle in someone's life. You may never know where you fit. But know that, someone's life may never be COMPLETE without you in it.

#18)  You attract people by the qualities you DISPLAY, and you keep them by the qualities you POSSESS. 

#19) God does not consult our past to determine our FUTURE, cos He knew the future even before we ever had a past. Learn from your mistake and move on for BETTER. 

#20) People who are meant to be together find their way back, they may take a few detours, but they're never lost to each other.

PS: Be POSITIVE, PATIENT and PERSISTENT in love....even the sky will be no limit for you. Or what do you think my Lovelies? 

Have A Magnificent Monday Lovelies! Don't Forget To Share This Post With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot). Kisses!!!
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Friday, 17 October 2014

The Line Between Love And Respect

Half our mistakes in life arise from FEELING 'where' we ought to THINK, and thinking where we ought to feel. And though we have somehow reduced the bane of our relationships to a COMPLEX match between the HEAD and the HEART, we can't undermine the thin line between Love, Respect and what the Bible requires of men and women.

RESPECT: is to show deferential regard or appreciation, state of being regarded with honour or esteem, polite expression of consideration and value towards someone or something.

LOVE: is the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for another, a compassionate and affectionate action towards oneself or others.

It is not a coincidence that the bible instructs Men to LOVE their wives and Women to RESPECT their husbands and not the other way round. Maybe because women tend to respond positively to kindness, COMPASSION and AFFECTION regardless of their state of mind or feelings, because  WE grow in love. While Men want to be APPRECIATED, HONOURED and VALUED.

Perhaps what's been MISSING in so many relationships is that we have either misunderstood or totally forgotten what is truly required of us to make our relationships succeed beyond the CHALLENGES we face. 

And while, the bible continues to reiterate that Men should love their wives as christ loves the Church....Not once does it ask Women to love their Husbands, even though there is mention of submission and respect. Some people even think Respect means OBEDIENCE. Whilst it doesn't, a woman will easily obey and submit to a man if he has earned her respect by completely loving her.

For Compassion and Affection is second NATURE to a Woman as Honour and Esteem is to a Man. The bible doesn't require us to learn that which is NATURAL to us, but to practise that which is natural to the other gender because it enhances us to reciprocate what we receive from our partners. In other words, a woman naturally shows love, so the man must be reminded that it's his DUTY to reciprocate that love. And a man naturally values or expresses appreciation or honour to a woman, she must be also be reminded of her duty to reciprocate the same....

So, if we Women are to Men.... As the church is to christ and Christ dearly loved the church.... Now I understand better every time I watch a BOLLYWOOD film with its translation in reference to love from a woman's point of view. Its always something like..... "You are akin to God" or "I see God in your eyes". I find that to be Deep and Powerful.

Then don't be surprised if all your companion desperately NEEDS from you is for you to stop holding back and start SHOWING more affection. Mostly because lots of Men still need to practise more ways and how to EXPRESS love and the Women more respect. Its okay for a woman to compliment a man, praise him, be considerate towards him and always let him know that no matter how annoying he can be, you absolutely value him. Believe me, Nothing works more magic like love and respect....or what do you think?!

Have A Fantastic Friday Lovelies. Don't Forget to Share This Post With Those You Love (or Even Like A Lot). Kisses.
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Monday, 13 October 2014

Alex's Audio Diary 22

Happy Monday Lovelies! I choose to have a good feeling about this week. Now, even if things don't go the way I plan, there's absolutely no room for anything less than OPTIMISM because What we THINK determines what we BELIEVE. What we believe determines how we FEEL. The way we feel influences how we are going to ACT. So you see one can't live a POSITIVE life with a negative mind or get positive RESULTS using negative thinking. Please LISTEN to "Positive Thinking" on my AUDIO DIARY for today....




Feel Free To Let Me Know What Positive Thinking Does For You. Don't Forget To Share This Audio With Those You Love (Or Even Like Alot).

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Friday, 10 October 2014

When, For Thy Commitment Sake?!

I've always liked the idea of a committed relationship whether it is the MONOGAMOUS sexual kind where we are just screwing each other senseless, no more and no one else....or its the "I dig you let's see where this goes kinda commitment", where we are smacking LIPS, fondling each others body parts but nothing more, out of sheer respect for one another.....or 'the ride or die', Bonnie and Clyde movement, You've got me and I've got you until one of us gets totally fed up with LOVE and creeps out of the relationship amicably. 

One way or another I've always given myself to one person at a time. Its either you had my HEART or well, just my body....but whatever the case was, It was simply a "you and I equation"....However temporary, I never did any sharing, at least not on my part.... because I've always thought the ability to be LOYAL to something regardless of the timing, circumstance or change in agreement is a reflection of one's true CHARACTER. And anyone who really knows me, knows I never get involved in anything unless I was completely comfortable with my CHOICES and for that I've been wired to stay committed to those choices. This is what brings me to the subject of COMMITMENT.  What is commitment? I've always thought making a commitment involves dedicating oneself and time to something, a person, a job, a project or even a cause they BELIEVE in. So why do people find it so hard to be dedicated to a choice that they made themselves?

Why should FREEDOM from those choices be such a tempting option if you willingly made them yourself? Why should you expect someone to fulfil their OBLIGATIONS to pay you for a job you show absolutely no commitment to....Or want a bevy of silicon BREASTS and ass to squeeze even after you made a choice before man and SWORE before God that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with that cute little snorkel. Lol. Why haven't people understood that WORDS are like a cash deposit, or some sort of down payment agreement on one's commitment....Like you don't say things you don't mean, cos someone somewhere will hold you to it, for the BALANCE. Like if you say you love me, then act like you don't give a shit.....or say you can't stand the town gossip and I catch you fratenising with the devil....Ha!....

A friend of mine recently said something HURTFUL in a fit of anger, that I didn't know how to love anyone....And yet I have been a good friend to his sorry ass and tolerating his excesses for what, 14 years or so. How much more love, can one show a friend? Lol.....I spent 7 years LOVING a man who never loved me back, 2 years dating and marrying a man I never really loved, 13 years reminiscing about the only man who truly did love me and yet I walked away. I'm still friends with the girlfriend who SLEPT thrice with my ex while I was dating him, another friend who wrongly accused me of dating her perverted ex, and the one friend who thinks she uses me to get what she wants, cos she's way SMARTER than I am. Hahahah. I argue with my closest friends and forgive them almost immediately, it doesn't matter that they sometimes say or do hurtful things to me behind my back....

How come? I've been committed to such a bunch of PRETTY ass wipes, you may think....Lol. Well...(throws hands up) I don't know....But I love them all the same, and will always choose the devil I know before the ANGEL I do not know....I mean its an intelligent approach based on EXPERIENCE. Why set yourself up for a whole new disappointment with new people, when you can be disappointed in a way that’s already FAMILIAR? Exactly!!! Because I made the choice to accept them for who they are, the moment I let the silly wonkers become an integral part of my life. Lol. That's what commitment really is about....You don't change your mind about a JOB you have been paid for, simply because you don't like the weather or your new client sucks. You don't break up friendships because people have certain things in their character that RUBS you off the wrong way, or the one thing they tend to do wrong cancels all the AMAZING things they do right....You simply don't stop loving someone because they don't squirt during sex, can't go ten rounds, refused to love you back or even because they don't fit the ideals of the PERFECT image you have created in your mind.

Commitment is about 100% complete DEVOTION to your choices, whether it's regarding your career, religion, business, relationship, friendship, family, marriage or even beliefs. Personally for me, the biggest distrust I have as regards LOYALTY sterns from seeing people who have a trunk load of commitment issues. Its difficult for me to believe a thing they say, because even though, they don't know why they hate committing to anything, they know they aren't someone anyone can RELY on...And that's where the stress really is, knowing they can always change their minds at a wimp or even at the slightest provocation or DISTRACTION. But how do you know if you are surrounded by people with commitment issues aka Commitment-Phobes......Well, Most times their own negative self-beliefs about RESPONSIBILITY, bonding, control, INTIMACY, love and relationships or constantly seeking freedom will guarantee that they ENGAGE in things that don't last. Because, when they find something that requires a little more from them, they start finding reasons to back away and end up SABOTAGING the future of it.

So, what are the signs of a Commitment-Phobe? See if any of these ring a bell for you:

#1). They travel for work and are gone for a week or more at a time.  Commitment-phobes, tend to choose jobs that allow for a lot of FLEXIBILITY to travel, not work in an office and control their own schedules. This lifestyle also makes it easier to avoid responsibility or be unfaithful.

#2). You haven’t met each other’s friends, family and/or co-workers or they tend to change friends and jobs every once in a while. Commitment-phobes cannot be transparent with their activities. They tend to compartmentalise the DIFFERENT parts of their life. You won’t know what their work life is like and you probably won’t get to know their friends. They have a strong need to be able to separate or HIDE elements of what they are doing so they don’t have to explain themselves to anyone. 

#3). You haven’t seen their home, and if you have, it looks more like a cheap hotel room, BLAND and cold. Most Commitment-phobes have a habit of living a reckless lifestyle. Their own homes are often nothing more than a one way-station to shower, change clothes and sleep on those rare occasions when they get to spend time there. Its usually a one person pad, no arrangement for INCLUSION of others on the long term.

#4). They are ATTENTIVE and charming only when you’re together or alone. Commitment-phobes move in fast. They use their charm and learned social skills to pursue you ardently until they win you over. Once they have you, the less attractive parts of their nonchalant personality start to show.

#5). They are last-minute planners. Planning their time with you is a form of commitment to them. So the Commitment-phobe is going to be uncomfortable if you take CHARGE of how the two of you spend your time. As part of his/her normal mode of conduct, they are going to want to stay in control of what the two of you do with your time together. If they agree to do something you want to do, they’ll have an excuse to opt out initially, typically be late or just cancel at the last minute.

#6). They make you feel CRAZY. The Commitment-phobe finds a way to blame you for the situation you find yourselves in and you start doubting yourself and wonder if you are the crazy one. They could even find a cute pet name for you that suggests you are a drama king/queen e.g. "Sweet n' Sour Pus".... SOUR because you are just a bitter moody person right? Lol. If you confront them about a situation, they won’t want to talk about it. They might even become moody, angry and flip in ways you’ve never seen before in them.

#7). They lose INTEREST when things get serious even if it's related to a job, contract or assignment. Commitment-phobes love the chase but not the CAPTURE. They want to win it but have no intentions to KEEP it. They have a history of brief, passionate relationships or jobs that end fairly too quickly. Aha!!!

Now, Have you seen people who follow through on what they say or set out to do, no matter how long it takes them? Have you seen those who never avoid their responsibilities or strive hard to maintain bonds, friendships and relationships irrespective of how complex the people they have to manage really are? These are the people who understand that an attitude of DEDICATION is beyond just following through on a promise, but is probably the most important tool for SUCCESS in every sphere because it is a DIRECTION you FOLLOW as it truly works for you or Until it actually works for you.

I used to be one of those who used to think my devotion was either an obsession or an addiction, some even call it passion. But everyday when PASSION wakes me up at 2am to write a post even though i'll rather be snoring a cute little tune in La La Land, I know it's commitment that gets the job done. When I force my body to drive myself to a MOVIE set on a crazy traffic day in Lagos, Its COMMITMENT that reminds me that I'm this close to finally achieving my GOALS.

Have A Fantastic Friday Lovelies! Don't Forget to Share This Post With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot). Plenty Kisses!!!



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Thursday, 9 October 2014

I Am Not Biased....

Based on two, three observations sent to me by emails, that I might be a little BIASED when it comes to the issues of love and relationships. Probably even a FEMINIST. Hahahah... Well, My posts are not an appeal to any GENDER. And not in anyway to suggest women or even men are in-competent, or to IRRITATE anyone. These are my random thoughts to help inspire a consciousness or rather a presence of mind not just about Love, Romance, Sex or Relationships but even about our Life's purpose and how we relate, influence and VALUE others.

Unfortunately I can only write about what I know from my own P.O.V as a woman on a her own personal journey. I'm not a man...So I couldn't possibly even be able to ASSUME I know how a man's mind works. Does that make any sense?! Again people absorb things differently.

The series of posts on Alexandra N' Her Naked Thoughts! Are just my opinions creatively written to attract ATTENTION to varied random subjects related to relationships, sex, politics, the economy, religion, social awareness and everyday living etc. They are just my honest transparent thoughts, I'm willing to share....with you all. If it inspires someone...All well and good. If they provoke arguments from the other side of the fence...Even better! The purpose of sharing them is to PROVOKE thoughts and to inspire consciousness in people! Hopefully, I'm achieving my goal.

We always make comments, if other people's opinions align with ours no matter the subject, even if its a political statement. I can't take responsibility for people's INTERPRETATIONS of my opinions whether it differs or it makes them complacent. I can only value their input. See it like I'm empowering men and women to UNDERSTAND their needs better... as well as reminding people of the reasons for which we all EXIST and live for. Its the same for authors who write BOOKS on how to be better women or lovers. Do I interpret it as it could make men complacent? Absolutely Not! I'm just simply focused on gaining knowledge to IMPROVE myself as a woman.

To all the SPECIAL Men and Women who visit this blog and thank me everyday for my thoughts, God bless you for seeing value in them! For those who still feel most of my posts favour women than men, (I'm not sure what you have been reading) but please go through my labels to read and LISTEN to more of my naked THOUGHTS, you'll be amazed. 

I know it's easier to think women are just a bunch of complex creatures....But believe me, most women aren't as COMPLEX as they are WISE. A happy woman who gets what she NEEDS, will not be complacent. She will do everything necessary to 'stay' relevant and happy that way with you! Thank you for making me HAPPY with your DAILY visits here. I love you.

Have A Truly Blessed Thursday Lovelies! Kisses!
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Wednesday, 8 October 2014

FEATURE: The Slum Invasion Project

I didn't exactly come from a POOR background or lack much while growing up thanks to the Grace of God....Still I know what it feels like to be in need or lack certain things as an adult, because we all STRUGGLE everyday to meet up our daily needs. 

I still remember what it felt like to become HOMELESS for some months, after we lost our family house and properties to the most violent fire outbreak I had ever seen in 2005. It was the benevolence of people and their never ending CHARITY and Love that helped us back on our feet, and kept us away from the streets. Nobody believes in sowing seeds of kindness in others like I do, because I realised we had benefited from the goodwill my parents had sowed in others. It is that incidence that changed my principle and my values....And how I view my life and my purpose to mankind. 

When people hear about Charity Projects or Community Service, they are always scared about giving because, they think it's always about money. Even though, yes money helps to go a long way in giving the less privileged a better life....Still I know that one can add value to the lives of others through SERVICE and SKILLS, if money isn't readily available. I've always considered Money to be my servant, not my master because I give more SERVICE value than I receive in CASH value.. And Every of those sort of  transaction, creates for a more meaningful life for those who receive it. Which is why I am once again lending my voice and support to the organisers of #SlumInvasion Project 2014....And you too can. So many people have been asking me, what is "Slum Invasion" about. Well here's all you need to know....


SLUM INVASION: 

Slum invasion is a concept put together by Jegede Paul Foundation and Qtaby Events. The objective of the project is to visit slums, inspire hope for a better life in the minds of the slum dwellers, give them opportunities to train and acquire different skills and provide food for children in these slums while giving them an opportunity to spend time with celebrities that they ordinarily do not have access to. We use these celebrities to inspire the people of these slums through their life stories to kindle hope for great aspirations in the minds of these people. Our major objective is to improve society through the lives of these people. Each year, the project is given a theme which explains its' main focus for that year.

The first edition of this event took place at Isale Iwaya on January 5th 2013, featuring artists like Timi Dakolo, Infinity, Tega e.t.c and had media representation from several print media, TVs and radio stations. 
We donated food and drinks to the community, children participated in a spelling competition and won several gifts including mobile phones, learning utensils; scholarships were also awarded.

This year, we have broadened the scope of the project as we have not only taken the children into consideration but the teenagers will also be catered for. We are partnering with several well-meaning organisations and philanthropists to ensure that we have adequate food supply and clothes for families. Scholarships will be awarded to deserving children and most importantly opportunities will be given to members of this community to acquire skills that can help them make a living. We believe that these people should be able to earn a living for themselves as this is the best route to a better life, becoming responsible and useful to their society. 

The event will feature artistes like Harrysong, Infinity, DJ Humility, Femi Brainard, Alex Okoroji, Femi Branch, Kalu Ikeagwu, Grace Ama, Comedians and many more... skill acquisition opportunities in the following fields: Catering, Driving, Dancing, Auto Engineering, Hair Dressing and Barbing, Acting, Singing and DJing.

Partners are the #4NL Foundation, Pretty Dreams Catering, Kdove Beauty House, Ronabel Architecture and more
Date: November 2nd, 2014
Time: 1pm to 4pm


You can learn more and participate by visiting SLUM INVASION

Have A Wonderful Wednesday Lovelies! Don't Forget, There Is Real Love In Giving....Kisses! 
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Tuesday, 7 October 2014

How To Love Actually....

I went to BED last night with this familiar quote in my heart...."To love is to recognize yourself in another." ~ Eckhart Tolle. And woke up this morning trying to analyse how many people really understand what LOVE actually is, within the circuit of a relationship....Well, who better to give advice than someone like me who's ruined her chances a few good times, and learned the hard way. The actual way....

#1) Everybody WANTS love, but few ever achieve it, and sometimes those who do, don't CHERISH it until its too late.

#2) Most times we FAIL at relationships, because we don't have a GOOD relationship with ourselves....and we don't bother trying.

#3) Catching someone's eye is not having their ATTENTION, and sharing their bed is not sharing their HEART. You must know that by now.

#4) It takes two hands to BUILD a relationship.... With one, you can easily wave good bye.

#5) Everybody knows how to fall in love, oh it's pretty easy to TRIP and fall....but only a few people actually know how to STAY in love...Do you?

#6) Your partner should never have to COMPETE for your attention, make them PRIORITY, or 'lose' them to someone who will.

#7) Make sure the person you're in a relationship with, isn't just a friend who's CAPITALIZING off the 'benefits' you have available to them. And many do.

#8) For no relationship is all sunshine, but two people who are 'willing 'to share an umbrella, can SURVIVE the stormy weather together.

#9) Know where you've been and use it as a GUIDE to indicate where you shouldn't go. Make PROGRESS in love.

#10) Share not only your joy but your PROBLEMS with your partner, the more issues you can get through together, the CLOSER you will get.

#11) You can listen to promises.... but to avoid disappointment, trust ACTIONS, not words. Believe me, actions never lie.

#12) Sometimes the hardest thing to accept is completely CHANGING yourself for someone who wouldn't even 'bend' for you. But it's okay, for though love didn't GROW enough in their hearts to do so....be happy that it grew well in yours.

#13) Be careful of just SEXUAL relationships, because soon you could give 'permanent' feelings to a temporary person, or a temporary person could want a permanent place in your heart.

#14) It's difficult not to look back at those we've 'lost'....But remember, not to CONFUSE your once upon a time, with your happily ever after....Focus on the FUTURE ahead.

#15) If you give up, it means you never wanted it. Truth is, LOVE never gives up HOPE.

#16) Having a Plan B = Lack of devotion to Plan A! COMMITMENT is forever. Stay Devoted!

#17) Know that SEX is the most abused form of affection. If you wonder why your bed mates confuse sex for love, it's simple. SEX is the most important form of communicating AFFECTION. Don't use it, if you don't mean it.

#18) Relationships are either ALL or 'nothing', make sure you're not exchanging your all for NOTHING.

P.S: Love the right person, or at least love someone who is making themselves RIGHT for you. Find arms that will HOLD you at your weakest, eyes that SEE you at your ugliest, and a HEART that will love you even at your worst. And whether you believe it or not....Love is ACTUALLY a choice. It offers you the option to choose. So VALUE yourself enough to CHOOSE someone who wants you, just as much as you want them....

But as my dear friend, Demele posted on his BBM this morning. - "If you decide NOT to choose....You have however chosen." Hahahah.

Have A Terrific Tuesday Lovelies! Kisses....
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Monday, 6 October 2014

FEATURE: Segun Arinze....And A Night Of Icons.

So I'm still EXHAUSTED from all the partying during the weekend. But mostly, the preparations leading to Friday, as some INDUSTRY personalities came to celebrate a special one of ours, who was AWARDED at the T-Lounge's "A Night Of Icons" in the Prestigious De-Santos Hotel, Akowonjo. 

I've always considered the man, SEGUN ARINZE, an amazing Super Talent, because he represents a true ARTISTE through and through and has stayed relevant in the Entertainment industry since the moment he sang alongside Ese Agese, at the National Theatre for the Nigerian Music Awards in 1989. Of course, a lot of people don't know that Segun Arinze Aina started his career as a SINGER before venturing on a lifelong romance with the camera in what has become a major part of his creative achievements today. 

As a MULTIPLE Award-winning Actor, a seasoned Art Administrator, a talented Singer, an electrifying Voice-over Artiste whose voice has become the SIGNATURE tune for some of Nigeria's biggest and most powerful BRANDS and unquestionably an Elder Nollywood Statesman! It is no surprise to me, that the Administrative staffers of The De-santos Hotel lead by the General Manager, Mr Remi Ajibade gave Segun a GRAND reception and celebrated him.... because he has earned his place in the STARS. He has thrilled us on screen and titillated us with his voice, blessed us with his generous mind and INSPIRED us with his talent. 

I felt very honoured HOSTING and welcoming the great recipient of the ICONIC Award for October 2014 because I personally consider it a great feat for one to be respected as an Icon in one's country. And the fact that the T-Lounge recognises the CREATIVE industry, my industry, warms my heart greatly because there is no Hospitality without Entertainment. 

The Night started with the Admin receiving him, a brief meeting at the conference room, a grand tour of the facilities and a special dinner buffet before the RED CARPET interviews and the main show with performances from numerous Musical artistes and Comedians. The HIGH point of the night was having Segun Arinze SERENADE the guests and perform with the live BAND in an amazing out pour of applause and his acceptance speech as he humbly received his award. 

Congratulations to the new ICON. He absolutely deserved to be CELEBRATED. To see pictures from the event visit @niteoficons on Twitter.

Have A Magnificent Monday Lovelies! Kisses.
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Friday, 3 October 2014

FEATURE: Copperbridge.... And A Cool Night Breeze.

I stepped out from my hotel room for some quick air at the pool side, when one of the waiters came to take my order, with a request from the gentleman across who was seemingly engrossed in a serious phone conversation. I politely turned it down, obviously waiting for the asun (grilled goat meat) I wanted to take up to my room and still dressed in my formal suits and fagged out from the incessant meetings from earlier in the day. It was barely 2 hours, I had stepped in but I needed to get away from the computer and my non-stop brainstorming. I just needed the cool night breeze fanning the embers of my made up skin.

Anyway, the gentle man walked up to where I was seated and we exchanged pleasantries, I thanked him for the glass of pineapple juice I reluctantly ordered on his insistence.... and we started a conversation on life, our backgrounds, career et all. He was a guest at the hotel. Actually been there for a few weeks on a business trip from out of town. We talked about business, real estate, politics, leadership, even social media....and he did quote some interesting great minds as I learned a bit just interacting with him....it had me thinking of our similar philosophies about life and how one harnesses their business instincts. Apparently he is the CEO of Copperbridge Resources Limited.  And after a bit more curiosity about his business, I found out that  Copperbridge Resources Limited is a highly respectable, dynamic and progressive company based in Nigeria, that provides management and general contracting services for industrial, institutional, commercial, hi-tech businesses and brands. They provide first class operational expertise in the area of branding, printing, oil and gas, real estate, loan sponsorship and management services. 

I also found out that they have partnered and collaborated with several high profile companies....in which they have branded Honda, Airtel, Huwea and so many more. And they are currently working on P&G Sterling Trophy and the International Breweries Ilesha.

Watching the humility and modesty in which he inter-acted with the staffers, truly made my evening breather at the pool bar worth the time and the extra- calories. To get more info about Copperbridge Resources Limited....click on the side banner or visit www.copperbridge.com.ng 

Have A Fantastic Friday Lovelies. Kisses.
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Wednesday, 1 October 2014

The Awry Ideals Of Beauty....

Its independence day and I'm wearing a fraying jeans, a tank vest, my nappy hair and no make up. Just my NAKED innocent face, the way I honestly love to wear it, when the cameras and the prying eyes of expectations aren't flashed in my DIRECTION. I'm inspecting myself in the mirror.  And a thought crept, holy crap.  I’m beautiful!!!

This is not a thought I have all that often. I mean, yes I hear how attractive I am....most times I'm not sure if it's the 36 DDD blinding them, the mischievous GLINT I always have in my eyes, the rounded hips most of them never even notice cos they are blinded by my humongous girls. Hahahah, or just the way I guard my mystery...

On the contrary, I have spent years whole-heartedly believing that I’m somewhat short and plain....Okay, not plain. Just regular! And this new Chubby, somewhat UNATTRACTIVE extra weight I gained from having Ray has definitely taken away a bit of the little CONFIDENCE I had.  But there’s a small voice inside that wonders if maybe that’s not quite right.  That mumbles about subjectivity, and the awry DEFINITIONS of words.  It has always spoken very quietly, but lately it’s started to get louder.  It asks me, when exactly did I start believing this?  

Where did these thoughts come from?  Why do I BELIEVE them?  Why did it matter that an old friend I hadn't seen in ages....Screamed, "OMG, Alex, you are so fat!!!!".... Whaaaat?!!! Is he crazy? I'm only a size 12, yet I've been made to feel like I'm a size 22, and a woman that size couldn't even be beautiful. Hian! Or that my ex boyfriend's definition of the perfect woman was a lean size zero, dark skinned tall looking nubian queen with tooth gap, thigh gap and a protruding CLITORIS. And I didn't even come close....Hahahah.

All I know is, those messages are now so ingrained into my head, that I can no longer tell which ones are real and which are not.  Not for sure.

Once, when I turned Eighteen,  I asked myself.  Why do you care about being PRETTY anyway?  Your VALUE as a person has nothing to do with how you look.  You have friends who think you’re funny, loving, interesting and creative.  Numbers on the scale, do not define you.  Why does it matter so much?

It shouldn’t.  But mehn, it does.

What is it going to take before the things I see and the things I know align?  What will it take before the right PERSPECTIVE sinks in, so that it’s not something I know in my head and say glibly, but I feel in my heart and believe?

Where did these thoughts come from?  I’m not sure, but I don’t think it was from any one place.  I suspect that my teenage self gleaned them from the PORTRAYAL of characters in books, films and conversations with friends, while listening to older women – our mothers, aunts, caretakers – talk and worry about their own APPEARANCES, in ways that suggested we were never good enough because, perhaps the men were never SATISFIED with what they saw.  

So often that recently, instead of saying, “You look pretty”, my mother will say, “You look like you’ve lost some weight.”  because to her, the two are synonymous. And from learning the SOCIAL conventions that require women to deflect compliments they’re given, and to tag insults to themselves unto compliments they give to others (“You have such gorgeous nails – mine could never be that pretty”) Hahahah. You dig?!

I suspect that those ideas came from all these things.  That they settled in the corners of my mind and grew, fed by my own insecurities.  They grew because I allowed them to fester.  Because I allowed imperfect people dictate how I should feel about myself and I didn't fight it. But how do you fight them when they’re all around you?

Our ideas of beauty are shaped by our cultural context in ways both overt and subtle.  We all know what’s HOT and what’s NOT changes dramatically from place to time.  And the REALITY is, I'm way shorter than the average model,  my thighs are too big, and my face is a little too round to fit the beauty ideals of this present times.  But that doesn’t make me ugly. It just makes me different. And what makes you different, makes you beautiful.

So to the people who love me and the way I think, I will always be beautiful. It is with this NEW philosophy that I have liberated myself from the fallacious ideals of beauty and emancipated myself from mental SLAVERY. And now that I'm an independent woman, independent of the MYOPIA of others, I choose to look at my Country, as we celebrate Independence today as a beautiful portrait. Whilst some may feel there's nothing to celebrate at 54, compared to other developed nations, beautiful in their own eyes. I refuse to pay attention to the negative parts of our image but the POSITIVE elements that still makes us one people, one nation. 

As I started the process a few weeks ago to drop just a few pounds, not for anyone's APPROVAL but for my own sake, on my terms.... towards my own GOALS. I've also chosen to stop complaining about the flaws and do the little I can to make myself and my country a better place, whether it is through my engagement with #4NL, #4NN or my support for the "The Slum Invasion Project 2014". For though we aren't perfect, we are still one beautiful people....And as a great philosopher once said. "There is no BEAUTY without FLAWS"

I know this.

And I understand it better NOW. 

As I stand in front of this mirror, looking for the usual DISDAIN that creeps up my face when I spot a new blemish not willing to fade....I realise this is exactly what we do to our country, constantly looking for who or what to BLAME, whilst we smear our beauty with so much shame. Despite it all.... Here's me Wishing Nigeria, A Happy 54th Independence Day....Just like the stubborn little acne on my face.... I know, these trying times shall soon pass away. 

For FLAWED as we may be, I still find my country seductively beautiful. And I love it....Warts and all. Hahahah.

Have A Wonderful Wednesday Lovelies! Keep Your Souls Beautiful Always! Kisses!!!
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