Tuesday, 30 June 2015

The Dance Of Optimism


If you know a thing about DANCE, then you know the cha-cha is a dance movement that takes you a few steps forward and then backwards....And oh! I'm a woman who loves to dance.

I also realise it doesn't hurt to be OPTIMISTIC about the things we want out of life. Sometimes we make CHOICES that move us forward...and other times the decisions we make takes us backwards....but wherever we find our steps, our mindset about it ultimately affects the end RESULT.

Which is why this quote "Optimist: Someone who figures that taking a step backward after taking a step forward is not a disaster, its a cha-cha" - Robert Brault.  Hahaha....I found this photo quote on a BBM Channel (Inspirational Leadership) and I thought to share with you all.

So what do you think my Delicious Talk-Bugs! Share Your thoughts?!


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Saturday, 27 June 2015

Suddenly I'm A Naughty Girl


I woke up this morning and all of a sudden my PHONE was blowing off the hook. I'm getting Facebook messages, Whatsapp messages and a torrent of followers on Twitter...Chei! I'm scratching my HEAD wondering what the hell was happening. I mean it was the pace at which it was happening co-currently. So I open up facebook messenger and I see phone numbers flying about my VIRTUAL space, email addresses, home addresses and several promises to put a smile on my BEAUTIFUL face. Ha!!! Kilode???

I'm wondering....SHIT! Have I missed something. it's like I quietly recorded a SONG a week ago...Went to bed, woke up and it suddenly became a monster HIT. Or maybe someone finally released a SEX tape of me....one I didn't FILM, or didn't know was being filmed. Then again, That's how I felt. Like there was some secret everyone knew, that I didn't know. So in my CONFUSED state. I figured I would just read through the many love PROPOSALS...I mean I'm always so freaking busy I hardly have the time to chat or respond to messages. I try...but I still SUCK at it. I cant even lie.

Still I decided I could STEAL a few minutes to respond to some of the messages and get back to my work for the day. Many complained that Facebook refused to allow them send me a friend's REQUEST. I nicely explained that I had long since reached my Maximum Friend's limit and they could still FOLLOW me on Facebook if they wanted...Okay, I still wasn't catching on what was happening. Maybe I somehow made it to the cover of VOGUE magazine. Thanks my delicious Talk-Bug @ Donkeke for sending that lovely photo in form of a wish...or what else explains these sudden FIXATION on same ole me. The guys are clearly at the market today shopping and they came totally equipped.

Then suddenly I received a message on Whatsapp. Someone I didn't know.... I ran over there quickly. We exchanged pleasantries...

Guy: Hi Alex

Me: Hi

Guy: Nice Interview

Me: What interview Please?

Guy: On Punch

Me: Oh oh! I haven't seen it

Guy: Its on Today's Punch. Ok....That you are done with your sex break and ready for a new relationship.

Me: Ha!!!!

Guy: So I'm here to summit my application please.

Me: Hmmm....I see...


So I dash off again...straight to mobile browser and searched myself on Google. Aha! There it is on page 1- "I'M DONE WITH MY SEX BREAK, OPEN TO DATING NOW" - Actress, Alex Okoroji.... Holy Moses! Whaaat???? I broke up in laughter. Nigerian Journalists just know how to create the most SENSATIONAL headlines, don't they? I mean if I wasn't selling, I would be buying me, right now... Yeeeaaa!! Like, if you scream the word SEX even the deaf will hear...E remain for people to ask me "Alex, How Market?" "Tell me, how much sef?" like I'm advertising myself or what! Whadehell!!!

As in see comments o. "All these Nollywood Actresses sef..." "Can she even cook?" "Yet, Another Kim Kardashian..." "Didn't you see Nigerian Man before you followed Ghanaian..." "That's how these actresses rush in and rush out..." Err, what has she acted before? I don't know her o...." I cracked up. I wasn't even sure whether to be pissed or HURT...or just be sorry for the bloody lot. I mean I remember this interview. It wasn't even much of that.

I got a call about a blog post I wrote commiserating with Media Personality, Toke Makinwa (TOKE MAKINWA...WHERE IS YOUR HEART HUNNIE) and the journalist wanted my comments being I pretty much understood her pain, my OPINION on that which I actually gave....Ofcourse trust them to squeeze out more juice. I knew it was coming...Yes, I played. but I didn't think the headlines were going to be all out screaming in your FACE. Now, I don't even smell the farce from where it all began....nothing anywhere mentions what this initially was about. I guess.. Toke's gist is old NEWS now....Abeg she handled it too well. Err...no go there...let's just lay Alex down on the bed, she and her naked self, and wait for bloody hell. They don't even know me well...that I'm an Igbo girl. And I go use them SELL. Yes ke!!!

So while some blog commentators where fighting on my behalf, defending me (I really thank them o), some were pouring out their hateful MYOPIC thoughts....But Why? Why should I worry about being a Tokunbo, Ehn! when I'm not a spare part...Jezuuus!!! Lol. even if I were, I work better than a tear rubber if they check me out... and now would be a good time for anyone to read this post (IF BEING SECOND HAND IS A CRIME...I'M GUILTY) I have long since accepted that the problem with the world is that too many, people care too bloody much about hearing their own voices....even if it sounds like CHALK on board, like they are rusty somewhat. Why should I care about VALIDATION from others whose lives are in no way better than mine.... when we all have our slimy greasy parts...All of us, and somehow through the MUD, I've spent so much time working on building my own Self-Love?

How in the world, should any thinking adult in this day and age, possibly decide a woman loses her chance to find a good man because she's a mother. STUPID!!!...and has been married before? Duh!!!.. Like clearly they are not in touch with the way of the world. Like anyone whose ever FAILED before wants to keep on failing. Forgetting a man stands a better chance winning with a woman whose been down that road before. Someone who clearly knows what she now WANTS....and is not about to take another bad FALL. Even my mother has a hell of a chance, finding a man at her age, if my father messes things up.... So bloody what?!. There are no limitations in my mind or shortage of men in sight....just me clearly holding on tight so I only do things RIGHT this time. So what if I said I was ready to DATE, does it mean I'm advertising and putting myself back in the market PLACE?

Okay, let me POKE some nerves....I never even said I was done with any sex break, because honestly speaking I never consciously went on one in the first place or even claimed to be CELIBATE. I see them lining up to clear my sweepstake...take out the cobwebs and eat my juicy steak. Hahahah. Or do you think my 'Raw and Unfiltered' posts here are made up figments of my CRAZY imagination? Bia!!! I pride myself on being honest and unfiltered....Don't put sand sand in my GARRI...just to STRIP that. Imagine Tiger, Pony or even Kisses believing that... Hey now....whats all the lie about, Miss Truth? We done poked this... even you know that it's true. Yea, these men probably read the blogs and they know I keep it REAL....Abeg! I'm a grown woman...I don't APOLOGISE for my truth.

What's done is done. What's gone is GONE. Tell me what's even there in a marriage to mourn....I don't deny that I love the ATTENTION I sometimes get, feels good to be making all these men SWEAT....but let's not even get it twisted...I'm still the same woman with a firm head, even if, I can be NAUGHTY and MISCHIEVOUS in the same breath. But If I suddenly wanted a man to scratch me down there....I know where I can find him all by 'myself'. So pretty please.. SCREW the Newspaper GIST, all of a sudden... they want you to believe I turned the 'naughty girl' in a heartbeat.... Hehehe.


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Friday, 26 June 2015

PODCAST: OvercomingThe Naked Struggle w/ Alex Okoroji


Hey Talk-Bugs1 When a FAMOUS Celebrity I have deep creative respect for, hails and addresses me as "Her Royal Highness, The Duchess of Naked Talk..." I just don't take it with a PINCH of salt. I actually own it! Hahahah.... (Or else why do I talk for a living?).

So do you think I have earned that title....? Then LISTEN up....

None of us are without our trials, and sometimes the struggle to keep our head above water becomes a CHALLENGE. ‎What has been the most difficult struggle you've had to face in recent times? And how well have you been coping? Have you been bold enough to keep it REAL and strip yourself NAKED? Its all about Self Love, Healing and Forging ahead, as I discuss "THE NAKED STRUGGLE..." in an open conversation about ways to overcome challenges.

Well, if you missed all that 'naked' inspiration on #TalkWednesday LIVE on THE NAKED TALK w/ Alex Okoroji. Then Please LISTEN/Download THIS WEEK'S ARCHIVED SHOW @ my Radio Channel.

You can also SEARCH and catch the show #Podcast syndicated on some of your favourite Internet Radio Platforms like ITUNES, STITCHER or TUNE-IN radio. Or just visit The Naked Talk page on this blog to listen to previous shows. You can also listen on mobile via Radio on The ALEX OKOROJI Free Mobile Android App @ Google Play Store OR just click the play button below


Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with THE NAKED TALK with Alex Okoroji on BlogTalkRadio


It's All About Straight Talk, No Bullshit...


I Love You For Listening. Xoxo.


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Wednesday, 24 June 2015

Truth From The Grape Vine


Hey Sweetkins, There are some of us who are so AFRAID to hear the truth. WE run away from it. Avoid it whenever we can and even twist it for our benefit, if we are allowed. But the AMAZING thing about serving the BOOST is that I know that these are daily TRUTHS from the vine...so we can pluck them, squeeze them...ponder... INTERNALISE and infuse them...until they become an integral part of our LIVES. Here are my NAKED TRUTH for today. Hope they inspire you as always...

1) I have learned that just because someone DESIRES you... doesn't mean that they VALUE you. Know the difference. Think!

2) You are in the wrong relationship if it is a SECRET. There is a difference between being 'private' and keeping a bloody secret.

3) Go for someone who is not only PROUD to have you, but who will take every RISK and EFFORT just to be with you. Yup!

4) Have you thought that instead of JUDGING people by their past, you can actually stand with them....STAND by them and help them repair their FUTURE?

5) People run away from their PROBLEMS, forgetting that it is more 'important' to do what is RIGHT...than to do what is EASY!

6) Obstacles can't stop you. People can't stop you. Only YOU and your many EXCUSES can stop you. Don't let FEAR keep you from succeeding your goals.

7) I realise that when you carry yourself in the right way like you're 'somebody', Ha! People are less likely to TREAT you like you're nobody! Who are you?

8) 'Communication' isn't solely about whether or not the message was sent or received... but errr...also whether or not the message was UNDERSTOOD.

9) Know that PAIN doesn't just show up in our lives for no reason. It is a SIGN that something in our lives desperately needs to CHANGE.

10) "Helping" someone isn't about what you do. It's about the IMPACT you've made on the person you did it for.

11) Maybe the thing you are most SCARED of, is exactly what you should do... You must learn to somehow CONQUER your fears.

12) Never apologize for OUTGROWING someone. It's really not your fault, that they somehow refused to GROW with you!

13) If you want to know who your real friends are....just 'ASK' for help. Your friends will make it happen. The others....Ha! They will make excuses! Lol.

14) Some people are so used to being 'single and selfish', that they can never ADJUST to being a 'couple and selfless'.

15) Don't allow your 'loneliness' to lead you into a FALSE sense of security. Not every man/woman who comes into your life, actually wants to STAY....or even needs to stay.

16) Surrounding yourself with the RIGHT people will most times require you to 'get' away from the WRONG people.

17) I know it is better to FIGHT for something than to live for nothing. Trust me... Moral COURAGE is a much higher and rarer 'virtue' than physical courage.

18) Be careful who's leadership you follow. A 'MOTIVATOR' will look back to see how 'close' you are...But a 'motive-hater' will look to see how 'far' you are. You dig?

19) Not everyone will appreciate your ideas, creativity or your honesty. Some people will even hate you for it. Still it pays to KNOW your audience!

20) A relationship will sometimes call for you to be 'uncomfortable' so that your partner can be more comfortable. I think its actually called COMPROMISE.

21) My biggest lesson: Stop building relationships with people you care nothing about. The first step to a happy, healthy relationship is building it on the foundation of genuine LOVE!

'Knowledge' is POWER! Remember, there will be people who will withhold information just to prevent you from having that power! Stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself. Its time to take back that 'cerebral' power...Or what do you think lovelies? Share your thoughts!


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Monday, 22 June 2015

A Letter To My Absent Baby Daddy


Yesterday was father's day and as I got on twitter fawning over my Dad and how I love him....I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that he loves me too. And as I read through sincere appreciation from many who celebrated their fathers, or fathers celebrating FATHER-HOOD. it dampened my soul as it occurred to me that my five year old son may never get a chance to glow with PRIDE over his. Not because his father is dead nor because he his the illegitimate spurn of a SECRET romance...but simply because his father didn't give a FUCK. And I suddenly realised that I'm partly to blame. I covered him up many a times, kept quiet about the details, brushed off his irresponsibility and acted like the good virtuous woman even when I was burning with clear FURY. I didn't bring in the law...Didn't hold him accountable...I just Let him be....so as long as I did my own part and made sure my child never suffers.

But as I gleefully received messages from a few close friends wishing ME a Happy Father's Day, It dawned on me that none of these was right. That I was simply enabling one man to go and destroy the life of a little boy he'd never even showed love...and honestly I have no THOUGHTS for what could ever possess a man to abandon his own flesh and blood. If this weren't happening to me, I would never be able to RATIONALISE any good reason, for why any man should abandon his child. I mean I've got male friends some of who can't even stand the mother of their kids (for reasons best known to them) Still they do the needful for the child. So I'm thinking, do we need to compromise our CONVICTIONS to be compassionate about what's wrong? I really need to RANT and RAVE...Which is why I have decided to write him a completely NAKED letter...

My Dear Absent Baby-Daddy,

How are you doing? Yesterday was Father's day, how did you CELEBRATE? Did you write a post on Instagram or Facebook about how lucky or PROUD you are to be a Dad? Did your children call you to tell you how AMAZING a father you have been to them? Did your new wife gush about you? I'm just curious Omar....

I'm sure you are wondering why I'm writing you this open Letter? Especially since I've been very civil, and somewhat PRIVATE about you and your character disorders. Truth be told, I kind of wonder how your new family copes. I wonder how possible it is that your sisters can't tell you the TRUTH. Then again, you could never stand the truth because you lived your life in a big FAT BUBBLE of LIES. I guess that's what a career of role playing does to one. You can't tell yourself the truth. We keep acting out scripts. Well, I sort of wonder how you sleep at night. I wonder how a man can be 45 minutes away by air and refuse to see his own son. A son loved by so many, born under your wings....born into your arms on your own BIRTHDAY. A day you swore before God would come.

A child you haven't seen since he was 6 months old. Since he left the one room we shared in your sisters apartment (not that it mattered). A child who didn't CARE that he didn't have a stable home, even when you were in his life. A child who didn't mind that he was jumping from place to place nor didn't mind the number of times you assaulted his mother Verbally, Emotionally and Physically because he was too young to defend her....too young to interprete or even understand why I screamed on top of my voice. A child who did you absolutely no WRONG. Yet, you never picked up the bloody phone once to CALL, not even to check up on him. Not to find out if he's healthy, not to find out if he eats or what he needs....not to wish him HAPPY BIRTHDAY even when he shares the same birthday with you....and though the entire world never forget to celebrate him or wish him well (not excluding your first ex wife and her beautiful kids). So Imagine that your EX always remembers to ask after him, her kids (his sisters) call him every birthday, Yet you the father never call, not to even wish him a happy children's day nor send your love to him nor do you even parcel the cheapest gift for him. And that's your son....your FIRST son. What a Fantastic Beat-Down-Irresponsible father you are. (But hey, it's all good. Your son is doing well. Actually way better than he could have been under your care. I'm grateful, God has been faithful, walking with us and holding our hands) And I do not despair neither do I FEAR.

Why am I writing you? Well I realised how lucky I was yesterday. I'm in my 30's and I still get to GUSH about my own father to whoever cares to listen. A man who is by no means perfect (Oh we have our disagreements...tell me who doesn't), but somehow hasn't run away from instilling his VALUES and loving the imperfect me, just the way I am. It reminded me of how LUCKY I am to have my own father present in my life even as a grown woman....and yet my 5 year old never gets to experience such because I failed him, by choosing the most irresponsible, self conceited man to donate his sperm. (Oh my, was that HARSH? I'm sorry, but how do you think it has been having my son live like his father is dead. Are you happy that he calls his Grand-Pa "Daddy" because that's how I refer to my dad. Exactly???)

It's been how long since I saw you, Omar? 4 Years, 7 months and counting... Why am I keeping scores? Oh hunnie, its not because I give a hoot about your life. I'm sure you can see that I have moved on...and moved UP. I'm only counting, because it was the last time my pretty boy saw his father. You waved at him and kissed the little baby boy goodbye at the Ghana airport, promising to come back the next week. And that was it. BAM!!! You kissed him and kicked him "Good-Bye" out of your life. Like he would somehow refuse you to THRIVE. What is your excuse? What is your story this time? Why do you think it makes sense that there's some valid explanation for why I'm sharing the burden alone? Is the problem money? Is the problem time? Am I the Devil? Oh you probably don't have a working phone? Don't you travel? Don't you work? Or is this boy simply not yours? What is it? Pray talk!!! I'm listening...I will leave out the drama, the lies, the stories et all, because this post right here isn't even about you or about me or even about why things didn't work....But about your child...one you claimed you so desperately wanted (even when some of my family members suggested we could plan for a child another time as it would affect my budding career). I was almost tempted by the idea to take it out....Almost...but somehow, you put your foot down saying you wanted him and 6 months later you scrammed. Okay, technically I walked...Had it been that you were there for your other children, I would have thought that I was the problem....but then again. We all can stop being husbands and wives....boyfriends and girlfriends....but we can never stop being PARENTS to our children.

I write this post for all the people who think my life is PERFECT. Those who think my son looks so healthy good because his father does his bit. In their minds you take some credit. How do I tell them in 4years plus that I only received money twice ($580 in 2011) and (#23,000 in November 2013) just a few weeks to your secret wedding (money you told your family was my pay off). Are you shitting me? How do you pay off your wife/child by sending them #23,000...as in Naira? Money less than $200. Hahahah. This clown!!! Is that money for all the diapers, baby food, clothes, hospital bills, toys, hair cuts, school fees, electricity bills or rent I've spent in the last 4 years plus....Or the ones I still have to PAY for the rest of my life???? You are a Joker mehn! And I haven't stopped laughing at the silly lies and stories you come up with to make yourself look clean. You are alive and your son can't remember what you look like, doesn't know what you sound like...Then again, it is 'destructive' men like you that BREAK women into crumbs while spitting out children who grow up ALONE without direction, so they become emotional and psychological MENACE to society. But I console myself with the thoughts that my son will never end up like that...He will never end up like you....I refuse the STIGMA with great HOPE. That he will eventually have a good Dad someday, a strong responsible man that will love him, teach him and guide him...one who will never be ashamed of him and will benefit exclusively from the SUCCESS he will become (because a father might be the one who donates the sperm but a Dad is the one who raises a child). That he will grow up a LOVING, ATTENTIVE, INDEPENDENT and SECURE man. That he will understand the joys of handling RESPONSIBILITY and grow the balls to exist in TRUTH. That is my life's mission. Nothing could be more important than the LEGACY I live for my kid. That he grows up proud to learn his mother was a STRONG dogged fighter, not afraid to stand where others feared to thread...someone who 'influenced' society positively with her gifts. And I dare anyone to MOCK him with all of these.

And though TRUTH may be stranger than FICTION, I'm publicly asking you for two things....


#1) Can we finally get that Divorce? Geez, I've been asking you to do this for years. Or have you forgotten that we are still legally married? (Despite being separated for years. Hope you do know it's a criminal offence under the law. And your one year old marriage is INVALID until you terminate your previous one) C'mon Dude, do you honestly want your 'new wife' to be tainted by the woes of a BIGAMIST) And I certainly do not want that for the amazing man who will eventually come into my life to stay. I bet she doesn't know the truth...that her husband is still married....or does she? Then again, every water finds it's own level abi?

#2) How do I refund your #23,000 Pay off. I think that's equivalent to $115 if I'm right. Lol. Trust me, my son doesn't need to think he's WORTH that little. Hahahah. I can live with anything else but the MERE thought , that I somehow bought off your CONSCIENCE....and sold off his birthright for a month of porridge.

I hear some people say that single mothers shouldn't be celebrated on Father's Day. Oh well, it won't have to be so....If only the Father's will stand up and be the SUPPORT that these women need. Some might even say I probably shouldn't be writing this....I'm seeking ATTENTION...I love DRAMA...but Damn, I have been quiet for far too long. Do they know how hard it is to walk in my shoes? Like 4 years is not enough time for you to analyse your life and make AMENDS for all the wrongs you have done to not just me but others. How do you even glorify God, when you don't even appreciate the child many will do anything to get. Unfortunately 'selfish' people don't realise "Marriage" shouldn't be the only thing that connects you to your blood. You don't have to be with me to show your son love. That's a bond that should even be more important than all others. For spouses may come...and spouses may go. But children have nowhere else they GO.

So to all the Single Mothers who have to STRUGGLE to raise their kids despite the absence of "Unavailable Dads". Look at me, I know your pain. I have cried so many nights....It affected my character, broke my spirit and almost ruined my budding career. I lost jobs, gained weight, broke my friendships, and despite me being silent...The talks behind my back were endless. I was not there to defend myself...to stand up up for my son...or scream it loud to the world. I simply ENDURED I even fell into subtle depression....but guess what, in all of these....I drew STRENGTH and I found a PRESENCE of MIND . I even connected to a deeper sense of PURPOSE. And somehow I tapped into that pain, to strip myself NAKED from all the experience, the infinite JOY I now express to the world. And truth be told, who would I be without these lessons?!

 It may look TOUGH or daunting. You may feel alone and not know where the next meal will come from. Sometimes, it may not even be about the money. Perhaps the psychological and emotional PRESSURE of doing everything by yourself. Sometimes you are high and sometimes you are LOW. You want a break but you can't stop the SHOW....because tiny feet needs to eat o. You may get so frustrated you even want to take your own life, end it all, probably do something to shake things up....Trust me, I know...I know SOCIETY blames women for everything wrong. If you don't get married it's your FAULT. If you do and it breaks up...oh well, it's still your FAULT. If your husband cheats, why couldn't you keep his PENIS away from the SLUTS. If he abandons you or his Kids, Bang! Bang! That's evidence you probably did something SUPER wrong. Don't FALL, just prove them WRONG. And show them that somehow.... somehow, you can truly do it ALL.

I am a living example of that TRUTH. The truth that we are stronger than we actually give ourselves CREDIT for.

P.S: To steal a tweet from the famous Tyra Banks - "To All the Absent Daddy's out there, Call your Children Today. Tell them you're going to try Harder to be there for them. And really mean it."

In the end, nothing you ever achieve in life can be GREATER than the characters of the children you have molded with your consistent LOVE. Selah!

P.S: Don't forget to pre-order a Specially Autographed copy of my soon-to-be-released book THE NAKED EXPERIENCE at The ALEX OKOROJI ONINE STORE. Feel free to also join the tweet party for @Hairvoluntionmag LIVE #HairForum on Twitter, I'm being hosted on the live forum. Follow me (@AlexOkoroji). Its going to be great CONVERSATION about the 'Hair Side Of Life"... Tomorrow, Tuesday 23, 2015. 5pm (WAT). Meanwhile 90 Spots Left To Go....Have You Registered For My Free Live Online Conference/Webinar on Saturday July 4, 2015 tagged THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101; From Idealist to Realist..." (It only takes 2 minutes to sign up). To participate and become one of the privileged attendees to receive my TBT techniques/The Naked Challenge Electronic Workbook on how I found my purpose and started re-building my personal BRAND from scratch. My Webinar will empower you to shake up your brand and chase your purpose in truth. I would love to see you there.


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IMPORTANT UPDATE: I Have A New Comment Sytem


Happy New Week Talk-Bugs! Hope you had a great weekend? And you started the week healthy? Well I've been getting loads of EMAILS from you all complaining about my COMMENT system. Most of you weren't happy that your comments were rarely posted and you were missing out in sharing your thoughts as well as engaging one another (which is why I created this platform anyway). I have been fiddling with ways to sort out my very ERRATIC comment system as I wasn't receiving a lot of your notifications. I've gone from trying the Google+ comment system, however nice it is still restrictive. Anyway I just installed a new comment system....This should work well and you all should be able to share your thoughts and build the community. Unfortunately there's a small glitch I'm still trying to FIX. ALL of my old comments have disappeared leaving my posts completely NAKED without your earlier input. I'm honestly hoping to resolve the import authorization issues with it soon. Still feel free to dis-virgin the new comment box and Disqus away!!!


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Saturday, 20 June 2015

Alex's Audio Diary 26


We have two hands. One to HELP ourselves....And the second to help others. Our GREATEST successes in life, are often found in helping others SUCCEED so much so that our most lasting and fulfilling ACHIEVEMENTS are often earned by helping others fulfill theirs.

This is an alien thinking, in a myopic CULTURE that often sees the world as one massive COMPETITION. In our minds, life is a game consisting of a bunch of winners and losers. And if somebody else wins, that’s one less opportunity for us.

But I have come to realize that this mindset of competition is based on a somewhat FAULTY premise. The assumptions– that we can't succeed together. That someone has to FAIL in other for us to succeed. That we can not be INSTRUMENTAL to other people's growth unless there's a fleeting reward in sight. That one more success in another person’s life equals.... one less success in mine. But quite frankly, this thinking is INCORRECT because another person’s success does not mean I have less OPPORTUNITY. In fact, another person’s success can actually be my success if I have the opportunity to enable, encourage, and promote them along the way to my own GOALS!

There are so many ways you can EMPOWER, INSPIRE or ENCOURAGE others to become successful just by being relevant to their needs either through Charity or Sharing Empowering Information necessary to their goals. Please LISTEN to my Audio Podcast for Today "HELPING OTHERS GROW".



Our lives are going to find lasting SIGNIFICANCE in how we choose to live it .... and how we 'enable' others to LIVE theirs. I hope todays AUDIO inspires you to do more for others. Don't forget to share your thoughts as always. I'm Listening.


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Wednesday, 17 June 2015

I Am The Typical Pisces... Do You Know Me?


I was granting a newspaper interview recently and the JOURNALIST asked me to describe myself. He wanted me to describe my personality and the easiest definition I could give considering my somewhat COMPLEX nature is that I'm typical PISCES...Err...The Positive Pisces actually, if I may add. Hahahah.


I know so many people who don't care too much for Zodiac signs....they think it's SUPERSTITIOUS and some even think there's some twisted spiritual undertone....But hey, it doesn't hurt to know the behavioural PATTERN of people born around a particular period....believe me, I care about it.... because it sort of gets me to UNDERSTAND people and their nature better. I also figured out the people I get on better with and the kinds that I just don't click with. For example, I never understood why I just couldn't SUSTAIN a real relationship with a LEO man. Well, despite having to constantly battle EGO trips....What does a Lion and a Fish have in common? Ehen o, I mean how can the FIRE sign (Leo) and the WATER sign (Pisces) blend? When water puts out fire....You see...but I did notice I get on fantastic with other water signs and even earth signs.....Yes, water and earth mix very well. Imagine a combination of water and sand/dust. Yup!!!


So do you have a piscean in your life? Me or someone rather close, born between Feb 19 - Mar 20. Well in my honest summary about my STAR sign.... Pisceans are Empathetic, Romantic, Openhearted, Mysterious, Passionate, Spiritual and very Intuitive people. And if you know me well enough, you can TESTIFY to all of these....Still when it comes to the Fish, it always pays to know which one you're getting, since there are often two (in one) and they can become confusing. Want to know a little bit more about me? Let's speed DATE with help from my friends @ pisces/are/us.

#1) Dont get upset if your Pisces date act like they love everyone. It's not true in a sexual way, it's just their nature to love everything.

#2) Pisces are wired to do multiple crafts. They don't believe in limitations.

#3) Pisces may not like something but they always adapt well.

#4) Pisces love people and attention (like Leo)

#5) Pisces can be passive and stubborn (like Taurus)

#6) Pisces are honest and loyal to a fault.

#7) In most situations pisces dont really care what happened, they care why it happened.

#8) Pisces sexuality is one that is fantasy-driven, spiritual and emotional.

#9) Pisces want mutual love, time-less love.

#10) Pisces can become great artists and storytellers. They also have the ability to grasp various details of something that people ordinarily tend to miss.

#11) Pisces can be a bit reactive.

#12) Pisces will identify your shortcomings but still love you for who you are.

#13) When in a relationship, don’t try to make a Pisces jealous, you won’t incite them, you will only disappoint them.

#14) Although Pisces may seem uninterested or unfocussed, they are great listeners. They not only hear what you say but also what you mean.

#15) Pisces can't do the opposite of what their hearts tell them to, even if they try.

#16) Wherever Pisces sees suffering, they want to help alleviate that suffering.

#17) Many dont like to admit, but too many Pisces are in love with alcohol or some drug or both. They get easily addicted.

#18) Pisces are able to make others feel better about themselves

#19) Pisces have a powerful intuition when it comes to a lot of things especially when attracting a partner.

#20) Pisces will fight for who/what they LOVE...

#21) Pisces have different trust levels with different people.

#22) Pisces have the best creativity of the zodiacs. They always end up in the arts either in fashion, film, music or as painters, sculptors, writers or as teachers, nurses or anywhere their creativity/caregiving is of value.

#23) You might be surprise but when a Pisces female falls in love they become quite shy.

#24) Pisces are uniguely fascinating and mysterious. Now the trick is in keeping them interested.

#25) Pisces favorite sex position? They are all about oral satisfaction.

#26) When in a bad mood Pisces can be a bit stand-offish to others.

#27) Pisces let themselves be chosen and if you want one, you will have to make atleast half the move.

#28) If you make a Pisces feel like they are taken for granted, they will disappear like thin air from you.

#29) Pisces have a terrible fear of rejection.

#30) Pisces hardly share their memories of deepest love or deepest pain.

#31) Pisces understand their partner's emotional needs and responds to it with tender love.

#32) Pisces are sexually fluid and are willing to try anything once. More often if they liked it.

#33) Pisces Negative Side: Escapist and somewhat Idealistic, Secretive and Vague, and Easily discouraged.

#34) Pisces always keep a tight circle...they are never interested in temporary friendships.

#35) Pisces have the ability to embrace all of humanity with compassion.

#36) Pisces are very forgiving.

#37) In bed a Pisces pleasure comes from fulfilling their partners desire.

#38) Pisces can dump you in a heartbeat but they will never cheat on you. They honor and value the essence that is a relationship.

#39) Pisces have no problem taking a real bullet for a loved one. But they dont stick around for the emotional pain.

#40) Pisces appreciates true art, beauty and the finer things in life. But unlike other signs they aren't driven by them.





Oh well, Did you learn something new about your piscean buddy? Is there something here that totally rings true or is there something you actually disagree with?....Feel free to chip it in the comment box. I'm CURIOUS!!!


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Monday, 15 June 2015

FEATURE: Toke Makinwa....Now, Where Is Your Heart Hunnie?


When I first stumbled on Toke Makinwa's MARITAL drama trending on social media. I felt EMPATHY I mean she's only been married 18 months...but I couldn't really be bothered about lending my VOICE to someone's private woes. Wasn't mine even shorter? Hey, we are all battling our own devils and trust me, my BATTLE might even be fiercer....but then a few LOYAL ABC Talk-Bugs had sent me emails and they wanted to know my thoughts. Since, I keep an OPEN mind, I'm really not one to pass JUDGEMENTS on either parties, that being said, I'll keep my thoughts as real as always. First things first....this is a real sensitive issue about REAL life people and I honestly believe her marriage needs to be respected, both by her voltron defendants and the other group...the vengeful clique of HATERS....Lol. I also think it should not have any effect or water down the validity of the brilliant ADVICE she gives on her video blogs. Don't we all know it's easier to solve other people's problems than it is to resolve ours...Besides, we all are not going to live long enough to experience everything ourselves....making deductions, assumptions and theories based on other people's experience is a good enough TEMPLATE for coaching....plus it's all hypothesis until something happens and totally changes our beliefs.


I have read a lot of the comments and opinions about what could have transpired. I will start by saying that the concept of marriage is way more COMPLEX than our fickle minds can fathom....and if you haven't experienced one in the public eye. You have no idea what the people who keep one go through....I've been there, done that and I know how difficult it is to live in the spotlight, with all of your mistakes and imperfections under constant SCRUTINY, yet wanting the things everyday people want whilst chasing and building a CAREER. And whilst I'm not exactly smitten by Toke....I mean, I have never met her one on one and I have no real basis for deciphering the kind of WOMAN she is.... Still I have respect for any woman who works hard to improve her brand. In this day and age....with the harsh economic issues. A woman needs to be a QUEEN BITCH. She must work hard and earn hard to support her man and her family, no matter how much he earns. And for the sake of other women who are going through similar situations who may not experience nationwide EMPATHY....These are truly my thoughts...


1) Its Not Her Fault: (At least not the part where he cheats on her)



I've read lots of tweets and comments mocking Toke, berating her and blaming her for the break down of her marriage....Some NEGATIVE minds claim that her seeking career advancement, her need to grow and her constant ABSENCE is somewhat responsible for the decision of her husband to cheat on her. But why???....The mind is like a parachute....it only works when open. Dammit!!! I'm almost TEMPTED to find these people and give them a good smacking with my most expensive 8 inches of hard stillethos. Whaat??? Bloody hell!!! Since when is it a valid excuse for any man or woman to CHEAT on their spouse because they are busy? Dang!! I agree that it takes two available people for a marriage to work....but I can almost bet my perky left breast that this relationship had its red flags from before 1960 (like most relationships anyway). Still, no matter how complex, difficult, complicated a person is. They are in no way responsible for the actions of a cheating partner. Do not even BLAME yourself. They had a choice...and they chose to stray. Let's call a DOG it's name....(And oh, I'm not referring to Maje o...before the association of cheating husbands descend on me. Hahahah. Okay Seriously, I can't be too judgemental simply because I do not know what in heaven's sake may have compelled him to be rather unfair to his wife). Still, I know so many people who are in relationships with very busy people and are completely loyal. I also know a few people who can't put up with their partners busy schedule and have put out crazy ultimatums....one way or another, they are forced to leave the relationship with good reason...yet without disrespecting, humiliating or publicly embarrassing their spouses.


2) Its Deeper Than Just Sex



If you didn't know these....well, it's pretty obvious, it's way deeper than sex. The woman with which her HUSBAND cheated with....or was cheating with...wasn't exactly a one NIGHT stand, a jump off or a mere groupie. She wasn't a mistake or a side chick as many might want to assume. She is an integral part of Maje's life...And now that's the COMPLICATION of love versus marriage. I keep asking people if they are in love or simply in love with the idea of being in love. Now, I would know right?....Remember, I myself once married a man I so badly wanted to love but didn't....whilst I was still CRAZY in love with someone else from my past. Could it be the same circumstance? The Anita lady, obviously is someone, Maje has unfinished, unresolved attachments or emotions to...and let's be honest, most married women move on from their exes faster than men do...Whilst lots of men still reminisce, fantasize or have unresolved EMOTIONS linking them to exes, they either have refused to let go or can not see themselves letting go. (Yes, I have been there as well....stuck a few times in a relationship with men who were still SECRETLY in love with their exes or secretly flirting with them...) And so this extramarital relationship seems pretty much one of those liason where Maje feels he can have the best of both worlds. A celebrity wife who fits his image and a lover on the side after his very own heart (not that I can pretend to know what goes on, in his head though ) This is just my own theory....based on all the many speculations. Now why didn't he use a CONDOM...Hahahah. I asked myself the same thing...Except, even if he had...a  BABY would have still miraculously made it to the mix. What a girl wants, she gets. Welcome to the real world. Do you really expect him to use protection with a woman he dated for 8 years or so every single time? It only takes a quick one off for Mr Spermatozoa to swim sharply near the ovaries. Gbam!!! And let's be honest, Anita might be working her way for something Toke doesn't have. Toke may have the ring...but the other woman clearly wants his HEART. 8 years is a bloody long time for a woman to invest in a man, and she may have been looking to consolidate on what they have...and she's a woman he has pretty much done everything with and built an intimacy as deep as what he has with his wife, if not deeper....(mehn, that's why I said relationships are so damned complex. Kai!!)


3) Not Every Marriage is Ordained By God



Ha! This one is a no brainer. I have said it and repeated it too many times. We most times choose a partner for ourselves that God may never have chosen for us, if we listened. (I'm not trying to go all religious...but even if you don't believe in God or his ability to speak to us about our most innermost desires....There's still a tiny voice called INSTINCTS...that's a voice I have personally learned to listen to in the last 5 years. Our instincts have a way of pre-warning us...and most times we suppress that voice because our desires echo louder than our voice of reasoning. Sometimes we even confuse it as FEAR. Just because some people are in our present, doesn't necessarily mean we should take them into our future. Too many of us have ended up with the WRONG people in the name of marriage because we are impatient or because we are ready to settle for less than we deserve...and by so doing SUFFER in silence while we forgo our long term happiness. The Toke/Maje union might be another case of such marriage. Remember, I was once married to a famous Ghanaian Actor. And even though I refused to accept it then. The signs were there all along. I knew I was riding this beautiful BENTLEY with 3 flat tyres that was definitely taking me nowhere. And what did I do....I rode it that way until it came to a final stop and I could go no more.


4) Separation isn't Always A Bad Option



Okay, before you all jump on me and start telling me that I'm advising Toke to leave her marriage because I did same....Well, it takes courage to decide BULLSHIT isn't your favourite thing and take a walk. Too many phony people pretending they are happy with their marriage. And misleading other people to believing everything goes back to NORMAL. Oh Puhleaseeee.... that's not true, and oh! I'm not championing divorce, I actually believe couples need to show tolerance, FORGIVENESS and commitment in a relationship. That being said, you fight for a relationship that's worth fighting for... I think having dated him for 12 years, Toke has shown the world she can be committed to a relationship....she need not sour her long term HAPPINESS just to please society. I don't think she should care about haters, prejudices or judgement. She should put her happiness first. If she can forgive him and live with the possibility that her husband is having a love CHILD by another woman he might actually love more than he loves her....Good, she should stay. If she can't....she should bolt right away. I honestly can't see what's keeping her. Well, even if she had an entire football team of children. RESPECT is everything. If your man doesn't respect the relationship you both share...Good riddance abeg...Let him be with the one, he loves...or wants. She has nothing tieing her down sef. And I think she will be far more happier, focusing on building her career without the added GUILT trip of keeping up appearances and managing a failing marriage.... And I use the word "failing" very lightly because it may just be a HURDLE to create a rather successful marriage in the long term (though I honestly doubt it) The issues at play are quite deep. And let's be realistic. There's always gonna be this child linking her husband to his ex/ now-almost-baby-mama. I don't even want to think of the level of INSECURITY this will give even the most confident woman...Imagine, having to sneak behind your hubby wondering if he's texting her again. If he made love to her when he visited the baby or why he's JEALOUS she wants to start dating other men. Trust me, I've been there. And I became the most insecure woman during that relationship, just knowing that no matter what I did right, someone else out there had a hold on my man. Toke doesn't need this headache. No woman needs it. Even the bible sites grounds of infidelity as a moral ground to get a DIVORCE. Let's be honest. Men might say sex is just SEX....and it's not a big deal. And that might be true in some cases, but when you truly love someone. You don't want to hurt them and you are not willing to RISK or jeopardise that relationship for anything else. When you love someone, they come first. You SACRIFICE every other distraction or temporary satisfaction because love HEALS, it doesn't break...And love itself takes deep COURAGE.


5) Don't Blame The Third Party



Alright I'm not giving the honeycombs and jump-offs a pass. I'm not excusing the role they get to PLAY in the phase of an AFFAIR. But let's be real here. Even though I have never seen the sense in taking what belongs to another. (I mean, Why would I want another woman's man? When I can have one all to myself...eerr...well) Still, I know that no woman or man can steal your spouse without their own CONSENT. Which makes every person responsible for their own LUST and honestly speaking, a woman's business is simply with her cheating partner and not the woman he fools around with. Especially if the third party is available and has their own end FREE and open. The one who should be blamed is the one who is supposed to be loyal to his commitments. And as far as I am concerned, the free single woman is only loyal to her heart or her needs depending on her reason for messing with a married man in the first place. In this case free the ex/baby mama. She'a a SINGLE woman who wants Maje. The heart wants what it wants. That's not wrong. Maje on the other hand should have stayed loyal to his commitments to his wife, Toke. And since he didn't....I honestly believe he chose Anita over Toke (sad as it may seem or wrong as I may be) The consequences of that choice is evident.


6) She Will Grow From This Experience



When my marriage didn't work out. I disappointed a lot of people that were rooting for it to work. Family and friends alike....but look at me now. Wiser, More mature and Happier. Toke isn't the first, neither will she be the last to experience such heartache. And it needs to be known that thousands of everyday women experience such PAIN from men they love. This is simply muse for more amazing content for her video blogs, I swear. She should lap on the experience and embrace the truth of her reality especially if it isnt working. I also think it will be rather unfair to judge the other woman too harshly, (not because I support her cheating with another woman's husband...by the way, those facebook photos though) but the NAKED TRUTH is that so many people, such of who get married for all myriads of REASONS other than LOVE, see a marriage certificate as nothing but just a damned bloody piece of paper. The only thing that sincerely holds true, is how much or less VALUE people have for their marital vows or the person they marry or get entangled with. I also know that the status of either being "Single, Married or in a Relationship" doesn't even matter....The only status that matters is where the HEART is...So in all of these...I ask all three of them, where is thy heart???


Toke will have to DECIDE where her heart is....whether its stuck with her husband or in a future that doesn't include him. We women are stronger than we actually give ourselves credit. This too will pass. Let's continue to support Toke with love, prayers and encouragement. She will have to make a defining choice about her relationship. Whichever way, we must remember she's HUMAN and we must respect her choices however it sways, because Relationships are tough to maintain. Only those who know how to NURTURE them are truly the happiest. Or what do you think Lovelies?


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Saturday, 13 June 2015

Free In An Unfree World


A lot of people keep asking me how I've become so BRAVE, so courageous and so FREE.... Well, I found the most appropriate QUOTE to explain my life right now.

"The only way to deal with an UNFREE world is to become so absolutely free that your very EXISTENCE is an act of rebellion." - Albert Camus

Yes, you might think from time to time that I'm just a CRAZY rebel. This Alex is an attention seeker....Ha!!! But haven't you had enough of trying to feign sanity in an INSANE world, living your own life based on others people's warped IDEALISM or the near perfect standards set by society.

The only standards you should be uplifting are the standards set by your own CONVICTIONS about life through your experience. I'm simply living and saying the things that you think and feel....yet are just too AFRAID to express. And I know a lot of men and women who are healthier at the age of 50, simply because a lot of their FEAR is gone.

Remember that EXPRESSION is a sign of Strength and not weakness. Bask in the freedom of your own thoughts! Your MIND is by far your greatest asset, don't let anyone tell you it's your body, fame, money or success....because nothing the body has achieved... that the mind didn't first CONCEIVE.


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Tuesday, 9 June 2015

THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101: From Idealist To Reality



A few years ago I used to DREAM of working at a place like Soundcity. I didn't....But you know what? I now dream of OWNING an enterprise like 'Soundcity'. A few years ago, I wanted to be in every movie or television project that would come by....but now I dream of telling my own stories, collaborating and producing my own QUALITY work of ART. That's right, I'm a dreamer...That completely unrepentant Mistress with VIVID imagination and a picturesque mind. And it was most times, my biggest undoing.
 
I used to dream of the perfect life with the perfect career, flanked by a set of perfect children.... living in the perfect house, loved by the perfect man with the perfect billions to spend....until I realised that PERFECTION was really an idealistic expectation of the mind.... And my reality was world's apart. It took frolicking with the TRUTH to understand that perfection doesn't exist because we are all flawed and by extension, our choices and actions, most times become PRODUCTS of the imperfections we represent.

So, are you waiting for the perfect moment, when your stars will SHINE, your luck will happen and your dreams will MAGICALLY become a reality? Are you waiting for a Knight in shinning armour to push you up the success ladder or a Fairy Tale Princess to wave a mystical wand and make your dreams come true? Then you need to stop day dreaming and SMELL the coffee.

Its time to wake up and realize that to GET what you want, it will require you to stretch; out of your COMFORT zone, out of your regular routine, out of your CRAZY job, out of your destructive relationships, out of your family DRAMA, out of your poor excuses, out of your phony habits, out of your EGO and definitely out of your idealistic mind.

So, let’s suppose you have an inkling that what I’m saying might be true...

Is it only true for other people? You know, those who you SECRETLY think have a little more going on than you do?


Two truths for you:


1) If you think you are ONE in a million, then do the maths... There are six thousand people just like you in the UNIVERSE. And they all want it too....So get moving.


2) If there is a BATTLE that needs to be WON....This is where you will #win the battle - in the playhouse of your MIND.

And I bet the biggest challenge we face everyday is first CONQUERING ourselves... and overcoming the mental obstacles that stifle our growth. When we can channel our thoughts to focus more on the VISION and challenge our minds to turn those dreamy ideas into palpable RESULTS.

It's time to set off the trigger that will help you ACCOMPLISH the goals that have remained stuck in your dreams....and push them into REALITY.

I know too well, what it feels like to be stuck in one's head and remain stagnant. As I literally began re-building my brand from scratch, all by my self..So Join me on Saturday, 4, July 2015 at 11am GMT, I'm hosting a Free Live Online Video Conference/Webinar called, THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101: "From Idealist to Realist..." It's all about stripping open our CHALLENGES to achieve balance in life using TBT(The Basic Truth) techniques. I'll also be sharing nuggets on how I finally moved past my "Dreamy Stage", conquered myself, challenged my mind, and began pushing my vision into reality. My stories will inspire you and the tools/tips will help you get started. There's so much to learn. I'd love to "see" you there!


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Sunday, 7 June 2015

PODCAST: Nigerian Advocate, Henry Balogun Talks For The Love Of Community



Hey Talk-Bugs!!! Friday night was a crazy blast. And my guest absolutely rocked 'Friday Radio Special' with his thought provoking narratives and a STIMULATING conversation like you've never heard on him before. There's something about the weird uncanny INFLUENCE I have on my guests. Heheheh. If you missed the #LIVE show yesterday. You can catch "FOR THE LOVE OF COMMUNITY w/ Guest, HENRY BALOGUN on THE NAKED TALK with Alex Okoroji. The incredibly respected HENRY BALOGUN, Renowned Attorney, Former Chief of Staff to the Office of the Deputy Governor of Lagos State, Advocate, Social Entrepreneur, Host of "Preparing For Public Office" on Radio Continental 102.3, TV Commentator, Founder of 'Ibilè Foundation' and the Chief Driver of the New Social Initiative Campaign "I Love Lagos" as he stripped his mind completely NAKED. We talked about his passion for Human Management, Leadership, Public Service, The City Of Lagos as well as his genuine love for Community. Listen to the interesting archived show here on my RADIO CHANNEL or catch the #Podcast on ALEXANDRA N' HER NAKED THOUGHTS . You can also listen via the ALEX OKOROJI Android Mobile App by clicking on "Radio" or search THE NAKED TALK on ITunes Podcast & Download the show.


It's All About Straight Talk!!!


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Thursday, 4 June 2015

Finally, Here I Cum...


I spoke with a friend of mine. He complained that I never call him. That I've gotten so busy that he sometimes, wonders if I have time for myself....or even time to get NAUGHTY. As always I laughed....If only he knew. Even this good girl can be bad sometimes.... Well, I already told you my SEXCAPADE with current Mr X is story I intend to share with you. Oh well, you won't believe what my life has become. I mean I was starting to fear that I was going to end up one of those women who will go through life without experiencing an ORGASM. I mean a real earth shattering climax. Yes! I've said it over and over again. I'm one of those magic O's. Expecting me to cum is pretty much like performing magic, like waving a mystical wand at PHCN and suddenly expecting our epileptic power supply in Nigeria to stabilise. Common na, I'm over 30 years. Lol. So Imagine a Penis dribbling and pummelling away, pounding me....Aaarrgh!!! That's the sound of flesh against flesh. Chai! My CLIT gets a little weird sensation. I'm MOANING and grimacing....maybe grimacing and moaning. Not sure in which order it follows though.


I think I'm going to SCREAM....its coming. Errr....I mean, I'm cumming....bia bia....Oh Shit! Bloody shit!!! Don't go....don't stop....Not now....Oh no!!! Down NEPA. Phewww!!! Nothing happened. And then, the idiot on top of me stiffens, DICK goes limb and he lays flat like a pack of cards. Ha!!! For a moment. I thought it was me dying....no it was him. Schmuck!!! Did you enjoy it Alex? (Why na? But guy? Why ask me this kind question na?) Err, yea....(I smile) What do you think? Ofcourse, that's me trying not to LIE and still hoping not to deflate his ego or SHRINK his already limb penis. My eye takes a quick stroll down south south. Oh Yea, Mr Penis is laying asleep. Selfish bastard. Hahahah.


That pretty much has been the story of my SEXUAL life. I can count how many times, I have achieved a climax from penetration on one hand....I mean, I pretty much have resigned myself to the fact that only two ways can make it happen. I either help myself. (Don't wince, my sisters....una dey do am abeg. Its okay. Its healthy. Ask your therapist. Its your body, remember....and it takes me less than 5 minutes on a good day....BAM!!! Hahahah) or the dude I'm dating, simply has to go down on all fours and EAT like his life totally depends on my COOCHIE. Hehehe. Which is usually the most realistic consolation for me.


So on this very fine day, after staying months away from the Boys and the PENIS....I fell flat on my back on what was the most unplanned sexual encounter, any grown woman could anticipate. I had been out for a drink with Pony (not his real name....and don't ask me why I like animals or why I attract a TIGER and a PONY) I wonder what they smell on me though ....Hehehe. So Pony, my Ex who I hadn't seen in 11 years was in town and wanted to meet up for some business discussion. Ofcourse, I'm always available for BUSINESS as long as it's in line with my PURPOSE. So we met and it pretty much was an awesome meeting. Mostly because the bonding was great. We talked ideas, I poked at him, we had great laughs....the bottle of RosĂ© might have played a big role in setting the mood. No anxiety, no anger, resentment, nothing....Just pure EXCITEMENT to be in fine company. We talked about his life, my life....projects et all. And ofcourse we rescheduled more meetings...and let's just say I noticed him BATTLE himself. If anything at all, he was doing a fine job of avoiding physical contact with me. Good job Man! Strong Man....THE PONY. Lol.


Then after a few more meetings and a hangout that was really a blast, except I don't know why I ended up alone in a massive BEDROOM at planet one. Not that I wanted him to leave his room and join me....(okay, actually the ambience wasn't helping). I had never felt so lonely. And how was it even possible that I wasn't turning this man on. Like seriously, it's me na....Alex. Not to sound arrogant, but when I see women break themselves in order to act SEXY, it kills me with laughter. I know who I am...I need not try too had. Yes, they say I'm drop dead sexy without even trying. And this is not me soliciting for more validation. Its something I know and I have accepted about my NATURAL aura.


So we survived a night in separate rooms and even agreed to meet up later in the day for another friendly drink up. Nothing much....I was trying to convince him to try a new local brew. Him, not being much of beer lover. Anyway, some CRAZY unexpected incident happened and forced me to end up at his place, as it was clear I wasn't going to make it back on time before my estate shut the metal locks. I was there a bit EMOTIONAL, he held me to console me and then he KISSED my forehead. And it all went uphill from there. He kissed me and I tasted heaven like literally. Anyone who knows me, knows I'm not a random kisser. I care a great deal not only about who I exchange saliva with.... but also WHY? Kissing is an Art...if I have nothing to say that words can not contain. Why bother? Because I'll rather give you some other lips....than the lips on my FACE. Forgive me but yes, it's really that serious for me. Hehehe.


So Pony is kissing me, non stop and the look in his eyes stole my BREATH away, I found a man so happy, so content, it was infectious and everything felt just right. It didn't matter that the world was at war, or that our families could kick against this liason. It didn't matter that barely 12 years ago, this same man had hurt me in little ways... What mattered was here and now. That I was wrapped up like a pretzel in the ARMS of the man, for which I lost all of my INNOCENCE. Don't know if it was when he helped me take off the shirt he had loaned me for the night or the number of times, he said "Ada, you are so beautiful....". I don't know if it was the gasp in his breath when he first saw my girls pop out from the bra caging them....or when he ran his hands across my skin. Don't know if it was when he buried his head between my THIGHS, and told me I tasted good or if it was the incessant apologies for staring so hard at my somewhat 'beautiful' face.


Don't know if it was the careful loving rhythm of his body grinding to mine, or our silly little CONVERSATION in the middle of the love we made. Don't know if it was when I chose to get on top or when he flipped me over and took me on all fours. Don't know if he was the moment, he let it slip that he still loved me, never stopped or if it was when he wanted me to EXPRESS exactly how I wanted him....Don't know if it was the effect of watching a man who used to be somewhat cold, become so TENDER and so loving....or if it was the PERVERSION of having something owned by someone else. Don't know if it was the uncanny similarities between him and my darling Tiger or if it was the renewal of old feelings.


Whatever it was, sent shocking WAVES down my spine, as my body TINGLE and wiggled... and for the first time what seemed like such an impossible feat happened. Suddenly, here I was in pure ECSTASY in the middle of a conversation. I reached CLIMAX before a man and we weren't even working hard for it. After all the history we have together. Finally, here I CUM.



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