Sunday, 30 August 2015

Let's Walk The Talk


You keep saying you admire my work... you are proud of my tenacity...my drive...(Okay maybe, you haven't told me so) Lol...but let's be honest, you probably THINK it. But still, don't be that person who can't WALK the TALK. If you are not willing to give me your support when I need it.

Remember, I told you about this dream...Well, I've had this crazy VISION long coming. And as a CREATOR of Arts who has acquired immense knowledge online and benefited from building strategic relationships & networks. This means a lot to me. I have been waiting for the PERFECT time but there's no such thing as the perfect time...only NOW!

I'm crowd funding for the ABC Book Club. It is an Open Community Platform for Learning, Information & Expression and I'm using one of my amazing TUTORIALS to raise funds. In other words, rather than just ask you to give me either $4.99 (about #1,000 to RENT for 30 days) or $9.99 (about #2,000 to BUY) off your hard earned money. I'm offering you something genuinely priceless to help you go from being a DREAMER into a real ACHIEVER whenever you lose the MOTIVATION.

This Tutorial Video with my Presentation Slides...is 97mins of Really Naked -10 Basic Mind Strategies I have personally gained from EXPERIENCE in the last 2 years and have propelled me from my days of being a No-Good-Stuck-In-The-Rut-Struggling-Idealist...And I am confident it will help you or help someone you know needs a good PUSH.

My Milestone Starter GOAL is to have 2,000 Buyers and 2,000 Renters and we can together build the vision to empower more minds. (Renters are automatic SILVER STAR members and are free to FEATURE their creative content using the ABC Forum on my Blog and generate their own unique links and share to my global audience or even theirs & a 10% discount coupon on all #AskAlex Talk Therapy). Buyers are GOLD STAR members, they get all silver rewards and also get 2 days of Banner Ad Placement for their business on my Blog Site and a Mention on my Radio Show). Trust me, I'm giving a lot.

Remember, ABC (Alex's Blog Community) is an open community. It may bear my first name...but it is your community because it is YOUR feedback, participation, response and encouragement that has kept the vision going.

To prove I'm a woman who also walks the TALK. I just made a purchase. I have RENTED The Naked Challenge Webinar Video for $4.99.


I'm also willing to BUY as a GIVEAWAY to two people who may need this tutorial (just leave your name and email in the comment box, so I can buy it in your name). And  I'm glad to join the 15 others who have started this milestone with me .

Out of all my friends here...Are you willing to join me in this CHALLENGE? Click to get this SPECIAL OFFER


I Love You For Supporting. Xoxo


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Random Musing'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

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Have A Soulful Sunday Lovelies. Kisses!!!



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Can We Build A Learning Community?

 
Hey Lovelies, I need your help...And it's very important. I don't always ask for HELP...But I know it will take more than just ME and my good intentions to make this happen...People always ask me how I've been able to do so much...LEARN so much in the last 2 years about Social media, Strategic networking, Web/Graphics design, Creating Online Products, Contents, Copy Writing, Podcasting and other CREATIVE studies (all by myself) and I owe it all to the great amount of RESOURCES on the Internet and my love for READING every and any thing I can get my eyes on. But not everyone knows how to START or where to go to get the right information.

E- Learning has been a major part of my self DEVELOPMENT and social media has connected me to many Thought Leaders and Influencers around the world. I also know Social Media has its pluses if used right, hence why I believe that the world needs more BOOK CLUBS than Night Clubs, because the MIND is the essential Power House of every SUCCESSFUL person. The hub that limits us or propels us to achieve greatness....If only we could encourage more people to READ a lot, we won't be so ignorant as a people. ‎The Book Club is an open community for Learning, Information and Expression....

So rather than just beg you to 'donate' to building 'The ABC Book Club' to help foster a better E -Learning Culture as well as an Expression Platform. I'm adding VALUE by offering you my Amazing Tutorial: THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video...You can either RENT it for $4.99 (About #1000 for streaming) or BUY it for $9.99 (About #2000 to download). Whichever you choose, you will be EMPOWERED with my basic mental strategies to go after your own GOALS. And in the process would have done one good deed for me and the members of ALEX'S BLOG COMMUNITY (ABC). It only takes a few minutes and it accepts your regular Naira Debit Card, Master, Visa, Credit Card or PayPal.

You lose NOTHING!

P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Naked Challenge'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Soulful Sunday Lovelies. Kisses!!!
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Friday, 28 August 2015

PODCAST: Eclectic British Musician, Mchael Kilbey Gets Naked As He Reveals More About His Music


This MYSTERIOUS multi-talented Artist had his bevy of Sea Queens listen in LIVE from Argentina, Germany, Italy, France, UK, USA and several other places as they tweeted, re-tweeted, ran online commentary and showed their unanimous undying SUPPORT for their Musical Maestro.

Chatting with British Singer, Songwriter, Guitarist & Pianist - Michael Kilbey on Talk Wednesday was nothing short of quirky MAGIC as he took my listeners on a journey into his MYSTICAL world of music with his 'Unrehearsed Flowing Honesty'. Several good laughs, a prank call, honest assertions, AFFIRMATIONS and unflinching support from a LOYAL Irish supporter- Michelle who called in all the way from Chicago... made the conversation even more meaningful as she added her colourful essence with her contributions.

Michael Kilbey was unashamed to strip himself, his thoughts, his desires and his self CONFLICT even as an ECCENTRIC Singer Songwriter who explores the themes of genuine EXPRESSION and vulnerability about love, loss, betrayal, romance, fantasy, anxiety and de-reality in his music. As well as a sense of SOUL searching and spiritual wandering. And with the highest number in LIVE Listens so far on THE NAKED TALK w/ Alex Okoroji, this rising star sure knows how to ride upon the waves of Indigo. You can connect with him @ www.MichaelKilbey.com or join his over 58,000+ Followers on Twitter: @MichaelKilbey

SONGS PLAYED ON THE SHOW...

#1) Indigo - by Michael Kilbey
#2) I Want To Belong - by Michael Kilbey
#3) Many Moons Ago - by Michael Kilbey
#4) Mr Fall From Sky - by Michael Kilbey

If you missed it LIVE, You can still LISTEN to the Archived Show at my Radio Channel. You can SEARCH or Click on my syndicated show on any of your favourite Internet Radio Platforms like Stitcher, ITunes or Tune-In Radio. Don't forget to also subscribe and leave your reviews on STITCHER and 

You can also listen via 'RADIO' on the ALEX OKOROJI Free Android Mobile App or CLICK on The Player Below NOW


Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with THE NAKED TALK with Alex Okoroji on BlogTalkRadio

This EPISODE of #TNT 025 was brought to you by Qtaby Entertainments & Events, Hair'Volution Magazine and The Tony Okoroji Store AND Share Your Closet (#SYC) Charity Event.


I Love You For Listening. Xoxo


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Feature'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Fantastic Friday Lovelies. Kisses!!!

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Tuesday, 25 August 2015

Do You Finish What You Started?


This is the number one REASON why for so long I rarely succeeded at anything even love, despite all my many talents, great ideas and intentions... I found out that I never FINISHED anything I started. I would quit once things started to get tough or COMPLEX...and like many people, I always wanted the EASY way. A 'Quickie' as long as it wasn't linked to my VAGINA.

Even as a teenager (back in the days) My rice would never get cooked right, because I was always in a hurry to leave the kitchen before it even steamed well. I only recently learned a year before the birth of my son, that to be a GREAT COOK I must be willing to spend as much time as is necessary 'preparing' in the kitchen...and as many years as I need, to PROVE my 'commitment' to 'who' and 'what' deserves it. And now those who EAT my home cooked meal can testify to my CULINARY greatness...Hahaha.

Are you one of those who never finish a PROJECT? You always leave things HALF done? You are quick to run away when things get TOUGH? You hate OBSTACLES? You fall out of LOVE so quickly, Never stay in a RELATIONSHIP, cut off FRIENDS at the drop of a hat, give up on chasing your DREAMS, Hardly keep a JOB, Never FOLLOW through on resolutions or PROMISES you make.. And then you suddenly wonder why, after all these years... your 'success' is just a MIRAGE?

Well, this MIGHT be a reason plus the fact that subconsciously, you are even more SCARED about being successful than being a failure. And oh SUCCESS to me is simply putting all your PLANS into ACTION as you watch your dreams come true ....

So are you ready for my next LIVE event? THE NAKED CHALLENGE 102 : "How To Finish What You Started..." COMING SOON this September. Get ready!

How about you start from the basics by getting THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video: "From Idealist To Realist...". You can RENT it for only $4.99 (that's less than #1000) or BUY it for only $9.99 (that's less than #2000) I share some basic TRUTH to help you become an achiever. What amazing strategy the truth can serve.... You can also get it at my Official Website.

Remember the PERSON that gave up?

Neither does anybody else!! Hehehe. Losers let things happen...Winners MAKE things happen. Your FUTURE is created by what you do TODAY, not tomorrow. So don't wait. Do it NOW...Sometimes 'LATER' becomes 'NEVER'. You'll be glad you took action!

I Love You For Challenging Yourself - Xoxo


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Naked Challenge'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Very Terrific Tuesday Lovelies. Kisses!!!
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PODCAST: American Blind Blogger, Author & Motivational Coach, Maxwell Ivey Leads Out Of The Darkness...


Don't you feel terrible when you come up with all the silly reasons why you can't achieve yours GOALS? I haven't had so many laughs on a #LIVE show like I did with this BLIND radio sensation from Texas, who has overcome several obstacles to ACCOMPLISH a lot...If this doesn't MOTIVATE you, nothing will. Well, here's the Amazing TRUE STORY of a completely BLIND gentleman who lost 250 pounds, made better health choices and chose to help lead people out of their darkness into their own light, after overcoming obstacles to accomplish a lot in his life. While building his business, he learned many things including how to hand code html, start a blog, record videos, use social media including Pinterest, build an email list, recruit clients, write ad copy, generate email newsletters, and so much more. guest, MAXWELL IVEY JNR (Popularly known as The Blind Blogger) an Ispirational Blogger, Podcaster, Motivational Coach and Author of the E-book "Leading You Out Of The Darkness Into The Light...", LIVE on THE NAKED TALK w/ Alex Okoroji, as he stripped his journey out of the darkness, in a world where people with no disability are doing nothing with their lives, constantly making excuses or have given up on themselves.

If you missed the show, you missed some infectious humour, positivity and inspiration... And as always, I make them TELL more than they usually do. You really need to LISTEN to this. It may help you figure out if you are doing enough with your LIFE. Thank me later.

You can still LISTEN to the Archived Show at my Radio Channel. You can SEARCH or Click on my syndicated show on any of your favourite Internet Radio Platforms like Stitcher, ITunes or Tune-In Radio. Don't forget to also subscribe and leave your reviews on STITCHER and 

You can also listen via 'RADIO' on the ALEX OKOROJI Free Android Mobile App or CLICK on The Player Below NOW


Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with THE NAKED TALK with Alex Okoroji on BlogTalkRadio

This EPISODE of #TNT 024 was brought to you by Qtaby Entertainments & Events, Hair'Volution Magazine and The Tony Okoroji Store AND Share Your Closet (#SYC) Charity Event.


I Love You For Listening. Xoxo


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Feature'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Terrific Tuesday Lovelies. Kisses!!!


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Sunday, 23 August 2015

15 Truths To Open Your Inner Person Of Purpose


Hey Lovelies, hope you are having an AMAZING weekend so far? Its been a rather hectic period for me shuttling between all of my creative endeavours...And sometimes, I ask myself what the hell I was thinking to put myself through all of these sleepless nights... but then I remember the GOAL ahead. Today, I reconnected with a good old friend Freddy and while we were chatting on WhatsApp, he said... "Alex, If all men can be like you...you should know I equate you to MEN. Your STRENGTH and CHARACTER are hard to find amongst women. You are tough and purposeful." and so I replied him..."Oh Freddy Fred, Equating me to men..." and then he said "Come to think of it...How many men even have your kind of strength?...". And we laughed, talked about work and future projects. And after that I couldn't stop thinking about the ultimate COMPLIMENT he paid me...And no, its not the comparison to strong men but the fact that like a lot of people, he was able to identify me as a 'Woman of Purpose'... Someone who has a clear direction on how I intend to succeed in life and impact the life of others. And that has given me some PUSH to go through all the crazy tasks I have ahead of me this week...But you know I never feel complete until I spread the LOVE and INSPIRE you, so let me share some BOOSTS.

I hope these 'Truth' lubricate your mind....

#1) Be HONEST enough to admit what you're truly feeling. EXPRESSION is a sign of strength...and be STRONG enough to fight against it, if its necessary. That's the real challenge.

#2) I have learned that saving a 'worthy' relationship is way EASIER than trying to start a new one because a good one takes time...and let's be honest, there are no GUARANTEES in life.

#3) The key with feeling really AUTHENTIC is in being authentic with EVERYONE, not just a few people, and not just yourself.

#4) If people didn't care enough to help you during your times of need, believe me they have lost the right to JUDGE you for what you did to SURVIVE. Forget about their judgement and focus on making it through the day.

#5) I hear a woman with a beautiful BODY is good for the night alright, and a woman with a beautiful MIND is good for a lifetime. That's right! What about the beautiful body with a beautiful mind that gets treated really bad every time? Well, It only takes a 'worthy' man getting his ACT right to really know how to TREAT the perfect woman RIGHT.

#6) Too many broken people holding out on genuine love. Never let the person that HURT you have so much POWER, that they make you miss out on someone who truly wants to LOVE you and MEND you.

#7)  Curiosity will conquer FEAR even more than bravery will. Its okay to Seek... Ask...Discover...Learn...Know... Sometimes that's all the 'Bravery' we really need .

#8) GIVE but don't allow yourself to be USED... LOVE but don't allow your heart to be ABUSED...Stay in control of your emotional bank. You are kind, you are loving...but you are no FOOL. Don't go emotionally bankrupt or you'll have nothing left to even give.

#9) Walking ALONE with a map in hand is far better than moving with a CROWD in the WRONG direction. Don't be AFRAID to set out on your own, Even a crowd can get lost.

#10) In my struggle to find direction, I have realised that any PATH that lacks HEART, is never one you should take. Trust me!

#11) If you don’t even have the time to do things RIGHT, when will you have the time to do it OVER? Aha! Slow down and THINK!

#12) HELP is a very EXPENSIVE gift…You really shouldn't expect it from everyone... Because very few people are RICH at heart...Are You?

#13) I find that we as people are far more 'accepting' of the things that we are USED to, even if all they do is DESTROY us. But CHANGE isn't such a draw back. How about we learn to accept that?!

#14) True love is about 'committing' to another person over time, through the happy moments as well as the tough times. That's why love is a COMMITMENT and not a TEMPORARY rush of feelings.

#15) Sometimes there are no 'next time', no 'time-outs', no 'second chances'... Sometimes, for you to WIN it's either NOW or NEVER... And you have to be ready for the moment or you'll lose.

Here's me wishing you a HAPPY NEW WEEK ahead. Allow life to take you places...don't stay stuck with all your NEGATIVE excuses. Be a happy  'Person of Purpose' who makes the best of what life dishes. As always, feel free to let me know what you think about today's boost. I'm itching to hear from you.


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Alex's Daily Boost'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Enjoy A Very Soulful Sunday Lovelies. Kisses!!!



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PODCAST: Nigerian Singer & Publisher, Azeezat Allen Shares Some Real Talk About The Good Love


It's incredible how every CONVERSATION is so different...every guest comes in with some REAL TALK that provokes our thoughts and opens our mind. She shared her personal secret for building a long lasting relationship...And you can BANK it from a Female Entertainer who has not only spent 15 years together with one man, 13years married to him...but also to a man within the Creative Business, an industry that many say couples never last. She talks about the advantages and disadvantages of working with a Life partner and the process of GROWTH in her relationship. The painful source of her earlier MUSICAL Inspiration...And let's not forget the dapper Desmond Elliot made it to her cool list of potential on screen 'love interest'...even though she thinks KOREDE BELLO and his music is so cute. She has come to love herself , accept her SIMPLICITY and being the woman she is now, despite not having a biological child of her own. If you missed the Intimate Conversation LIVE with Multi-talented Singer and Publisher of Hairvolution Magazine -AZEEZAT ALLEN tell it all on The Naked Talk w/ Alex Okoroji....Then you missed some downright empowering conversation. And the Queen of Love dished some truth and earned her CROWN.

If you missed it LIVE, You can still LISTEN to the Archived Show at my Radio Channel. You can SEARCH or Click on my syndicated show on any of your favourite Internet Radio Platforms like Stitcher, ITunes or Tune-In Radio. Don't forget to also subscribe and leave your reviews on STITCHER and 

You can also listen via 'RADIO' on the ALEX OKOROJI Free Android Mobile App or CLICK on The Player Below NOW


Check Out Self Help Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with THE NAKED TALK with Alex Okoroji on BlogTalkRadio

This EPISODE of #TNT 023 was brought to you by Qtaby Entertainments & Events, Hair'Volution Magazine and The Tony Okoroji Store AND Share Your Closet (#SYC) Charity Event.


I Love You For Listening. Xoxo


P.S: Its now available for DOWNLOAD. If you missed my MOTIVATIONAL live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video and learn my 10 BASIC MIND STRATEGY on how to accomplish real GOALS.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio SpecialLIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Feature'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Soulful Sunday Lovelies. Kisses!!!
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Monday, 17 August 2015

12 Things I Learned From Losing In Love


As I spent a good part of my day listening to a good friend talk about his BROKEN heart. Imagine finding his fiancĂ©e and his cousin in bed, three (3) weeks to their wedding. I very well know that feeling of wondering, what you could have done to change the outcome of things... or even REGRET why you met this VILLAIN in your sad love story. Why they couldn't spare you the pain or why you never suspected your happiness will one day be cut short. I know that feeling of wanting to sleep and not get up... somehow hoping some good sleep will solve the problems and mend your heart but you wake up and that throbbing pain is still there...Still they say it's better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. And being that I would know a lot about what it 'feels' like to have lost LOVE in the past.. I also know that I learn whatever lessons I can from any given EXPERIENCE, good or bad....


So Here Are 12 Things I Learned From Losing In Love....

#1) If the person you want is making you feel 'unwanted' then its time to MOVE on. Love makes you feel 'welcome'...only LUST makes you feel 'used and drained'.

#2) Stop waiting around for people who don't want you. If they wanted you they would still be in a relationship with you...because they wouldn't have tried to jeopardise your heart and your love.

#3) Just like drugs, you can be 'addicted' to someone who is bad for you. Take control of your EMOTIONS and stop allowing them to hurt you by constantly going back.

#4) If you have to BEG a person to be with you. You'll have to keep begging them to stay with you. It's not worth IT. Have some self respect.

#5) You have to be HONEST with yourself. Do you really want love or just someone, so you won't feel so bloody lonely? Know the difference.

#6) People are not really SORRY until they change their actions. Until they actually CHANGE their actions, the apologies are merely a sign of them, going through their emotions.

#7) Love focuses on the BENEFIT of another person, so if their choices are CONSTANTLY focusing on them and not YOU and how it influences your GROWTH. Its not love hunnie.

#8) If they won't change to GET you...Ha! Forget it, they won't change to KEEP you.

#9) Don't let the good SEX confuse you. What's the point in keeping someone who THRILLS your body but KILLS your spirit. Good love is way beyond good sex . Are they loving you right?

10) You'll NEVER have to question a person's love, if they do love you. For their ACTIONS will always 'prove' it.

#11) There's no such thing as "I feel like I don't love you anymore". Love is not a feeling to begin with. Love is a COMMITMENT to the choice you make.

#12) The love you SEEK from others, can never ever exceed or substitute for the love you should have for yourself. If you are desperate for someone to love. Stare into the mirror. Once you've really learned how to love yourself right, no one can love you wrong.

Or what do you think Lovelies? Feel free to share your thoughts.....


P.S: If you missed my live webinar and want to watch THE NAKED CHALLENGE 101 Webinar Video. Please click ACCESS to watch the video FREE for only a limited period after which, it goes up for paid Download.

Don't forget to call in and catch me on Talk Wednesday and Friday Radio Special' LIVE @ 9pm (GMT) on THE NAKED TALK Radio Show. Its always a stimulating conversation with my guests. .



NOTE : Join Me In My Effort To Change The World With My Empowering Thoughts. If You Like Today's 'Love And Naked Reality'....Then Don't Forget To Comment and Share It With Those You Love (Or Even Like A Lot).

Got A Question? Feel Free To #AskAlexHere. If You Want Some Talk Therapy Instead, Then Take Advantage of my Private One-on-One and Book an appointment with #AskAlex using SetMore NOW!!!

Have A Magnificent Monday Lovelies. Kisses!!!

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Sunday, 16 August 2015

PODCAST: South African Clinical Sexologist & Author, Dr Eve Strips Down Cyber Infidelity


Are you Sexting a friend, Flirting Online with Strangers, Watching Porn, Exchanging nudes or Sexual Fantasies, Visiting Dating Sites, Having Phone Sex, Building Intimacy with someone else you fancy, SECRETLY or even just emailing an EX on a regular?

Well, today the Internet is changing the way people interact and it is having an impact on committed relationships. People are chatting, flirting, and even cheating online. The internet permits many to live out their FANTASIES. They can do and say what they cannot in real face-to-face encounters. This sort of behaviour can have major impact on relationships. To some, an online AFFAIR is just as harmful as an offline one because many see it as an EMOTIONAL affair even if they never meet face to face which could include online SEXUAL activity that involves various activities, such as viewing explicit sexual materials, participating in an exchange of ideas about sex, exchanging sexual messages, and online interactions with at least one other person with the intention of becoming sexually AROUSED. For others, they see nothing wrong with this sort of bonding and don't consider it to be cheating.

So, did you catch my interesting conversation with World influencer, 'Dr Eve' LIVE all the way from South Africa on my show? Well you need to LISTEN to our straight talk about CYBER INFIDELITY on THE NAKED TALK w/ Alex Okoroji

Seven Interesting Things To Know About Dr Eve...

#1) Her Birth name is Dr Marlene Wasserman but she considered it too long and clumsy for radio. She enters her 21st year as a singularly brave bold and respected radio talk show host. She is the recipient of the South African MTN Radio Award for the Best Night Time Radio Show. She is in demand for her cutting edge TV guest appearances.

#2) She owns an Online Adult Sex Shop @ www.DrEveShop.co.za

#3) She has written 3 best seller books on woman’s sexuality, sexuality education for youth, and ageing. Dr Eve is a sought after local and international columnist and blogger for both South African and international magazines, newspapers & web sites and is an award winning author.

#4) As an internationally renowned academic, Dr Wasserman teaches Sexual Medicine at the University of Cape Town Medical School, and is a well considered reviewer who is widely published in academic journals.

#5) As an International Sexual Rights Activist, Marlene is the Regional Secretary for Africa for the World Association of Sexual Health (WAS). In addition, she has served as board and committee member on a number of highly respected international scientific sexual medicine, sexual health and rights organizations . Proudly Dr Wasserman is a Temporary Advisor to the WHO (World Health Organization).

#6) She loves Music, Movies and Magical words...and has been dancing the Nia Technique for 12 years.

#7) Her current professional and personal 24/7 fascination is social media and Her new book “CYBER INFIDELITY: The New Seduction” begins her new career - in sextech... and can be purchased on Amazon, Kindle or at www.DrEve.co.za

#8) You can connect with her on Twitter www.twitter.com/Dr_Eve or www.twitter.com/DrWasserman on visit www.MarleneWasserman.com and www.DrEve.coza.

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FEATURE: Are You Willing To Share Your Closet in 2015?


I've got three different sets of cooking BLENDERS, a juicer I don't use, suitcases of clothes and several other items I just buy and keep around the house that could be useful to someone else who truly NEEDS them or could be put up in an auction to raise money for the less privileged.

You all already know how I feel about 'sowing seeds' and giving back to the community. So I'm very excited to hear that Qtaby Events in conjunction with Jegede Paul Foundation presents “Share Your Closet” CHARITY auction, an event which aims at raising funds through sales of fairly used good quality items to support widows and people living in the slums.

Jegede Paul Foundation is a nongovernmental organization which focuses on the UPLIFTMENT of mankind through socioeconomic DEVELOPMENT and outreach projects to less privileged individuals and communities. Besides Life Fountain Orphanage Home which was established since 2013, we have been known for activities like our annual “Slum Invasion Project” and “Widow Support Programs”.

The vision behind ‘Share Your Closet’ is to encourage members of the society who would love to reach out to these widows, and do not have money or do not know how to reach them. This event gives you an avenue to encourage, give and support the less privileged” – Victoria Nkong

The project has already started receiving DONATIONS and support from top personalities, dignitaries & celebrities like Omalicha, Harrysong, DJ Humility, Toofan, Ashley Stephani, Kola Oshalusi and more credible individuals (who have requested to be anonymous). Funds generated from this sale will be directed towards widows who would get grants for small business and SKILLS acquisition EMPOWERMENT. Items not sold would be donated directly to residents of SLUM communities.

Date – September 13, 2015
Time – 3.00PM
Venue – GET Arena, Oniru Estate, Victoria Island
Website: www.jegedefoundation.com and www.qtabyevents.com 

Our partners are Bella Naija, Cool FM, Wazobia FM, Naija Info FM, Jaguda.com, 360nobs, Japaul Oil & Maritime Services PLC, Insigna Media.
Feel free to also donate fairly used items, household furniture and clothes still in good quality?


For more information, call +234 (817) 820-7787 Email – Qtabyconcepts@hotmail.com

So my lovelies, are you willing to share your closet and empower more people? Share your thoughts....


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PODCAST: Nigerian Actress, Adaora Ukoh Talks About What It Takes To Be Bold & Beautiful


She has been described by the media as the BBB of the Nigerian Film Industry for being Big, Bold and Beautiful. But did you know that Actress, ADAORA UKOH started her acting career as a young teenager in Nigerian Movies? Well, LISTEN to her TALK about what it felt like playing the bold Lesbian woman MIRANDA in the "Lekki Wives" series, her WEIGHT journey in an industry that celebrates GLAMOUR, looks and pressurizes its practitioners to look super THIN, handling being mocked for being plus size, what it takes to be bold and big hearted in an Industry that steals one soul and of course she shares her hilarious Fashion Faux Pas.

As always there's something NEW to learn and laugh about.

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I Love You For Listening. Xoxo


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Saturday, 15 August 2015

A Woman Can Be Everything....


I recently walked off a MOVIE set, after being held back "Five (5) days longer" than our original agreement. I had UNATTENDED commitments... Meetings, Emails to respond, a Blog to manage, a Radio Show to produce and host, Podcasts to record, Clarity callers to take, Promotional banners to make and a Son to tend to. And while a few of my cast mates appealed to me to stay back and FINISH the remaining two scenes...I DECLINED, not only because the director was extremely RUDE and I already had enough of his insolence...DAMMIT...Isn't it a 'symbiotic' relationship between an actor and a production crew? So why does the average 'director' feel so ARROGANT like they are God's gift to an Actors career? Forgetting they'll be nothing 'spectacular' without Actors to actually direct...as Actors will be without them also.

But then he was presumptuous in assuming that just because I wasn't initially throwing a DIVA TANTRUM like some other Actresses, I didn't know what was right... especially when I remember time wasted, four days in a row that I sat on set fully made up, dressed for my scenes and didn't shoot a wink. That's right!!! Now what they didn't understand, was that my decision to walk away and attend an important meeting, was based on PRINCIPLE as a professional. I already had a commitment that I wasn't going to let another commitment BREAK, besides I gave the production 5 EXTRA days of my very precious time to prove that I am a team player and I wanted the production to succeed...even at the DETRIMENT of my other responsibilities as a PARENT and as Creative Entrepreneur....but there's a LIMIT to foolishness. And I don't care what lies may have been said behind my back once I left?!

In that meeting, I made five hundred percent (500%) times the money I was paid pre-advance, than I was paid to stay locked up on that set (A job I would have missed if I didn't listen to that stubborn 'intuitive' voice inside of me, telling me to get the hell up and move) A voice I have recently learned to TRUST in business. And let's be honest, always playing the sweet nice Alex isn't going to put food in my son's belly or pay my rent. And I am a GROWN woman who makes her own rules...I decide what I have to sacrifice, because I am the boss lady in charge of my own VISION.

I have been told severally that I'm too bold, too strong, too tough a woman...and I sometimes wondered if that was a terrible thing especially since I also know that I am KIND, LOVING, GENEROUS and Beautiful in my own way.

Maybe it's the strength in which I handle my disappointments, the way I TACKLE my challenges, the PASSION in which I present my opinions, the unfiltered HONESTY in which I share my thoughts, the weird CHOICES I make or the fact that I rarely waiver from my deep CONVICTIONS. A strategy that has so far helped me survive this world we live in.

But those who have permitted themselves to UNDERSTAND who I am, know that these traits are complimentary to my other 'softer' virtues (I'm extremely TOLERANT, open minded, always grateful and small kind gestures make me emotional)...still these have been quite an enormous VALUE in making me, an ACHIEVER in the truest of ways.

So don't let anyone tell you that a woman isn't meant to be BOLD or strong...or that you lose your SEX appeal if you are Intelligent. That KIND people, aren't tough or principled. Or that you can't be an Actress anymore because you are now a Blogger, that Stay-at-Home Mothers are not supposed to be ATTRACTIVE or because you aren't a shrewd woman, you won't make a great BUSINESS mind, that you can't have flesh on your tummy and still be downright SEXY or that you need a relationship to even feel complete. Do not let society bend you to conform to their mediocre standards or expectations . STAND OUT Gracefully. And pay attention to these beautiful words by Alicia Keys....

You are allowed to be Smart
You are allowed to be Beautiful
You are allowed to be Radical and have 'strong thoughts' that others might not AGREE with
You are allowed to be Tough
You are allowed to be Sexy
You are allowed to be Bold
You are allowed to be Shapely
You are allowed to be Kind
You are allowed to be YOURSELF"

You can be all of these AMAZING things and more...ALL at the same time. One doesn't have to be ABSENT for the others to be PRESENT. Even though you aren't PERFECT. Know that a woman can BE everything she wants...For as long as she remembers to be herself.

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Wednesday, 12 August 2015

PODCAST: Americana Singer, Songwriter- Scott Krokoff Strips His Journey To Realisation


Do you HATE when people doubt your ability or your DRIVE to realise your DREAMS & achieve your goals? Well, this has got to be one of the best CONVERSATION I've had in a while.

If you missed the LIVE broadcast of FRIDAY RADIO SPECIAL w/ my Guest, Americana Folk-Country-Singer, Songwriter and Instrumentalist - SCOTT KROKOFF. Then you should listen to this awesome LAWYER strip himself before ME about his musical journey from leaving the band EQUINOX and following up on his PASSION as a Solo Artist. There's so much to pick, so much to learn. Despite the fact that I kept mis-pronouncing his last name 'Crow-Koff' (Hahahah) I had absolute fun chatting him up.

There are pockets of Wisdom and Truths laced in this conversation. You can still LISTEN to the Archived Show at my Radio Channel. You can SEARCH or Click on my syndicated show on any of your favourite Internet Radio Platforms like Stitcher, ITunes or Tune-In Radio. Don't forget to also subscribe and leave your reviews on STITCHER and 

THINGS YOU MAY NOT KNOW ABOUT SCOTT...

1) He is a New-York based Americana Artiste
2) He is Married with Two Kids
3) He plays the Acoustic Guitar and Harmonica
4) His Third Album 'REALIZATION & DECLARATION Volume 2' is due for release in September
5) His songs have been featured on 'The Hope Week Series' on NBC- THE TODAY'S SHOW
6) You can find him at www.ScottKrokoff.com or on Twitter

SONGS PLAYED ON THE SHOW...

1) Don't - by Scott Krokoff
2) What The Hell - by Scott Krokoff


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I missed out playing two other lovely songs on the live show I GOT NOTHING and SPARROW.

Here they are. Feel free to enjoy (And oh you can download them for free):

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Monday, 10 August 2015

35 Signs That Your Man Is Emotionally Unavailable


I recently re-connected with a good friend of mine, and once I got off filming on set, he was top of my MIND....and so during our catch up conversation on Skype, he asked who I was dating now....

I told him straight up that I wasn't dating anyone and he asked me why? Somewhere between trying to articulate my REASON for being single whilst sounding nonchalant. I told him that in the journey to find myself, I have discovered a lot about who I am, what I want, what I need to do. What I can TOLERATE, what I can't....and certainly that I do not need to be involved with someone to feel complete nor do I need the emotional approval of another person to VALIDATE my existence. Until, I find someone who understands the REAL me and accepts my sometimes idiosyncratic self. SINGLE is the place to be.

What I failed to mention though was that I have had my fair share of dating the WRONG men...oh I don't mean 'wrong' for being IMPERFECT...but wrong for being closed off... the unavailable kind...and right now, if sex is the only thing a man has to offer me, he can very well keep his six inches of precious meat in his PANTS. And so it should be for any man, who thinks SEX is the only thing Alex has got to offer him too ....in fact he needs to get a brain check.

But unfortunately that is the world we live in....we always want less than we deserve....and we set off to ESTABLISH relationships with people who clearly have nothing to offer us really. I would know right, considering I invested 8 years of my life pinning for a LOVE that couldn't be....A love that 'shouldn't' be.... And somehow thinking I was the problem. Like It had to either be something I wasn't or wasn't doing right. But guess what? I realised that nothing I did or became would change the outcome...because the problem wasn't about changing who I was....but changing who I CHOSE. Knowing fully well that at your absolute BEST you still won't be good enough for the wrong person...At your worst, you'll still be WORTH it to the right person.

If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable, you know the PAIN of not being able to get close to the one you love. They’re evasive, make excuses, or are just inept when it comes to talking about feelings or the relationship. Some use anger, criticism, or activities to create distance. You end up feeling ALONE, depressed, unimportant, or rejected.

So how do you know that you’re involved with a Mr Unavailable – an emotionally – and often spiritually and physically – unavailable man? Well, I provide an overview of the signs and behaviours so that you can use them to EVALUATE your current relationship (or ‘non-relationship) situation.

What I can assure you of is that a man's UNAVAILABILITY isn’t sparked by something you said or did wrong... Mbok!!! In fact, it’s not that they’ve ‘changed’ or that you need to find the right ‘access code’ to get through to them...and oh, you’re definitely not going crazy imagining things, sweetie; Trust me, they’re simply unavailable.

More often than not, the primary issue that women FOCUS on is the emotional unavailability of a man...but there are always physical and spiritual issues that prevail. I mean, think of a man who isn't even available for God or committed to treating others right. Ahem! Yet, Mr Unavailable isn’t always the obvious Bad Boy....In fact he usually has nice qualities, which is what keeps the many women lingering around. And let's be real – most people have ‘nice qualities’ and of course, as humans, we’re very good at rustling up those supposed 'qualities' and seeing only the best in people. This isn’t a bad trait, but what we forget is that somebody’s 'availability' and their ability to COMMIT (Now would be a good time to read "When For Thy Commitment Sake?)... isn’t really about ‘being nice’. It’s about whether they are even humanly CAPABLE of mutual love, care, trust and respect as well as provide the LANDMARKS for a mutually fulfilling relationship such as consistency, balance, and INTIMACY.

The EU Man is the ambiguous, hard to read, attractive guy that floats between Mr Bad Boy and Mr Nice Guy. Mr Unavailable (or as some refer to as EUM – Emotionally Unavailable Man – or EU) with his inability to tap into his own emotions, his LACK of Self-Awareness (something I'm very conscious of) and his mismatched actions versus words, has millions of women investing their time and ENERGY into fruitless liaisons with him.

He has a host of EXCUSES as to why he can’t be as much of a partner as you would like him to be and blames “timing”, and says things like, “If only things were different, you’d be the perfect girlfriend”, Aha! Shoot this guy please....Lol. But Bia, does that explain why he continues to play hide n' seek with your emotions?

Mr Unavailable is very much about the CHASE. He pursues hard, showers you with ATTENTION and lays it on thick with a trowel in order to reel you in, but from the moment that you are HOOKED and things get comfortable, he backs off. Then he horns in again.

All of this behaviour allows him to run things on his terms and play down your expectations – just to maintain control. When you look at the PATTERN of your relationship with him, you will notice, no matter how HOT he blows, he always rolls back to his 'comfort zone'...the COMPLACENT territory, and then you'll start to feel as if you have to go into a 'pleasing overdrive' and then over compensate until you try to end things, in an attempt to shake things up and make him want you that intensely again.

After a while it seems as if he wants to AVOID doing anything that involves him being close to you – think EMOTIONAL intimacy – despite starting off very eagerly when he was pursuing you and unsure that he could WIN you. Did I mention that Mr Unavailable associates the feeling of 'desire' with the feeling of 'uncertainty' and being out of control? Yup! Of course this means that the moment he feels safe, it’s back to blowing lukewarm or freezing cold.

Here Are Just Some of the Signs That You’re With a Mr Unavailable.

If you find one sign, you’ll find many, but often one sign is enough to help you evaluate whether this is the type of relationship that you actually want to be involved in because each and every one of these signs, spell PAIN and looming trouble. So here goes…

#1) He has a girlfriend or is married. (This one is a no brainer right? I mean, he's somewhat committed to another woman by principle, even though he doesn't act like it.)

#2) He’s divorced but using that fact to avoid committing. Ha ha! Smart guy...(Well, I know lots of people who have experienced lots of pain like myself, yet are still looking forward to building better stronger relationships....so please this one no wash)

#3) He’s in a long distance relationship. Err... With someone else. Hehehe... (Yes, you are the one here right now, but doesn't that tell you that he can't be trusted. He's leading one of you on. That he may even like you better isn't a good excuse to act stupid. He's playing games with someone's heart. And e fit be you o...Baby you ain't no chess. Lol.)

#4) You’re in a long distance with him and he has no desire to get closer. (I have said it...relationship is about relating and building intimacy. if there is distance whether physical or mental...it's a deterrent. And let's be honest. Someone geographically closer is taking good care of your man...accept my TRUTH from the vine.)

#5) He’s very reliant on text messages, instant messaging and email for the majority of his contact with you. (Ha! What's the point, if we can't see each other, be with each other, hold each other and look into each other's eyes as often as we want?) Lots of EU men love to text, email, flirt online, hide behind empty words and use these sort of communication tools as barrier to restrict real intimacy. Do you realise he could be texting you and 25 other females? Trust me, it's no big deal if he texts you "I Love You" or "I Want You". Nothing special there.

#6) They’re ambiguous about the status of the relationship. (Ha! Simply ask him who you are to him...Err, he'll probably say "Alex, You are a Special Friend"... or "C'mon Girl, You are My Lady" or "We are spending time with each other"...."Lets see how this goes..." "Time will tell..." Geez! Slam your heels on his head....Oh no! Slam it on your head girl, your brain needs hard resetting.) Is any of these definitive? If he isn't defining things. You should know by now where you stand.

#7) You’re not sure when next you’ll hear from him, even though you’ve been dating him for a while. (Hian! The constant two weeks of no communication or form of contact in between... until you receive a random call after you have mustered some courage to call him first, two hours before.)

#8) You think you’re in a relationship, but it’s closer to a booty call. (He says stuff like ‘If only the timing was different, you’d be the perfect girlfriend;’If only things were different I’d definitely marry you’; "I wish I had met you before my wife"; "I should have waited for you".) Check out these translations or research a bunch of commitment avoidance phrases.

#9) When you try to tackle the status of your relationship or any issues, he either tells you what you want to hear and then returns to his normal behaviour, or he just skirts around the issue. One way or the other, you wind up back at square one.

#10) He lives with his ex. (Ha! Who is fooling who biko?)

#11) He shares a bed with a woman that he claims is just his friend. (Err...there we go again. Do you sleep with all your friends?...Does he? *shaking my head. We'll, I guess that's why they introduced...no strings attached for #friends with benefit.) It's evident he loves the freedom of getting some with no attachments...and yet you think he's available? What a long shot!

#12) He admits that he is dating multiple women continuously. (Is that Ego speaking or some real talk? Whatever it is, it's clear, he wants more than one woman. And that in itself speaks volume. Don't even think you are the one who will change this man.

#13) He’s openly not over his ex. Oh well, I can tell you this for free...This is the worst kind of relationship to be involved in. A EU man who is still in love with his ex and refuses to let go. Need I tell you this is love in a hopeless place? Hehehe.

#14) He says he’s over his ex but he’s quietly still trying to cope with the end of the relationship. Gets angry at the mention of her name or anything that sort of reminds him of her – (yep, he’s not over his ex.)

#15) He often mentions his ex or things that happened between the two of them. They are broken up but her ghost is still intruding your relationship...You are probably even being compared to her...She used to cook like this...Screw like this...Fart and even wink like this? Ah! Are you a learner?

#16) He’s an overt mother lover or mummy’s/mama’s boy. Point in case...you are dealing with an immature man who's incapable of making his own decisions, including determining if he even wants to keep you in his life. Let's be honest. You are also dating his mama.

#17) He’s a mother hater – has an overtly negative relationship with his mother.

#18) He doesn’t call when he’s supposed to or says he would. Ever. (Should I spell it out that you mean nothing much...because you are not a priority?)

#19) He’s one big walking EXCUSE.

#20) He’s abusive and in fact, he’s an assclown. Ass-clowns are unavailable people who are shady, abusive, and have empathy issues.

#21) He still creeps out after sleeping with you even though you’ve been together for a while.

#22) He has a stringent routine that he just won’t deviate from – sometimes a sign that he has someone else. i.e. Must get home at 8pm every night. Is on midnight call for 3 hours every day. He always has to stop by and pick up a particular chocolate or product from the grocery store for an unknown person. Hmm...

#23) He won’t take calls either before or after a certain time – C'mon na...that's often a sign that he’s cheating. Especially if he always has to walk away to speak privately. You share all your secrets with him, yet he feels there are certain conversations he needs to keep from you. What is he hiding?

#24) He doesn’t come around to your place until late. Is there a reason he avoids being seen during the day with you? Guess the monkeys only come out at night. Tsk tsk.

#25) He is resistant to involving himself in your life. Invite him to a family function or event...or even to something personal that means a lot to you...And wait for the excuse. Prepare yourself, he won't show up.

#26) He talks about his problems, his successes, his life – it’s me, me, me all the way. Where are you in all of these? Sorry hunnie, you are not in the picture. This relationship is a bloody selfie!

#27) He determines the momentum of the relationship – you meet up only when he wants to meet up. That's it! Wheww!

#28) He pushes for an ‘open’ relationship. Yes! The moment he insists a third party will spice things up...or your cute best friend should join in for a three-some. Or he'll like to watch his buddy and three other guys screw your ass in his presence. Oh well, there goes a man who isn't as emotionally invested as you think.

#29) He never refers to you as a wife, girlfriend, partner or any form of significant other.

#30) He uses SEX as his only way of demonstrating his so-called ’emotion’.

#31) There are pockets of time when he disappears and then re-surfaces with little or no explanation for why he went M.I.A on you. Constantly blowing hot and cold. Trust me, the distractions are way more intense than his attraction to you.

#32) He’s quick out the gate in pursuing you, gets your attention, and then goes into a slow motion – Future Faking, and Fast Forwarding

#33) He tells you that he has a lot of issues that he needs to deal with. He wants to change jobs or move cities...Ah Ah! How does that affect the status of your relationship? Shouldn't he be happier? Shouldn't things be easier, that he has your love and your support. Or be bold up...and actually says, ‘I’m not ready for a relationship now’, but is still with you, having sex with you, flirting with you and eating your food. Dammit!! Or He says he wants to get married, but there is no sign of a ring, no sign of a date and years are going by.

#34) He can’t commit to anything, no matter how miniscule. Whether it is a project, business or family gathering. Everything that he’s asked, such as whether he can do something with you is a big drama to get him to say yes or no. And he genuinely struggles with being empathetic. (Heart hard as stone) and in some instances, he has about as much emotion as an ice cube.

#35) He may randomly act as if he has fire in his pants and has to sleep with you right away or very quickly…. and then later blows hot and cold. Or you just don’t hear from him again…until he beeps you up for sex, the next time he’s looking around for some attention.

Can you recognise any of these traits? Feel free to share your thoughts or even add anything I may have skipped in the comment box. I'm curious to hear from you.

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